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Jacksterson

I'll give you my piece of mind, but I don't know how seriously you'll take it.

The only thing I see you doing at this point is passing on the news. Give the pirate the burial he deserves. Focus on him right now, and getting the news out. The only moral way of getting back at her, is of course NOT leaving out the reason why he's dead. Don't make it seem like you're blaming her, but make it painfully obvious as to why he's dead.

You can only learn from experiences like this. I'd say don't take anything for granted, live life doubly, and use this to help you live on in life. You know what loss is, and you know what you don't want to see. I'm pretty sure she's in shock right now, or something equivalent to it. Probably even texting the night away with her friends telling them all whats going on.

If you want her to stop being a text-whore, then stage an intervention. But if you just want to get some stress off, and don't want anything to do with her, like I say, focus on the now. Make sure you're in an ok shape before you do anything, you won't be of much use if you're torn up. Suck it up and do what needs to be done. I'm sorry if I seem... harsh or indifferent. I really am sorry for your loss man. I've only experienced one death in my family, and I barely knew her.

But you know, life goes on. Suck it up and do what needs to be done, instead of wallowing in despair. I'm POSITIVE Dave the Pirate would approve.

I hope I helped

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TribalRocket

I want to thank all of you who responded; it has really helped me this morning.

I decided to take the day off from work. I called home to my parents and called around to old friends who filled me in the details. I learned Dave's Mom decided out of the kindness of her heart not to press charges against anyone during the accident, which was in typical action of his mother.

There was a beach ceremony for him, a common procedure with my high school, where the alumni ordered a custom black long board with a 'Jolly Rodger', the skull and crossbones, with 'Dave the Pirate' etched out in some Victorian-style writing above it and his birth date and death date written under it. On the backside was Dave's famous work that got published into our yearbooks: his version of the pirate code. 25 ridiculous rules that would make anyone who didn't know him chuckle. I found out that it sits up proudly by the sand dunes overlooking the water, next to and slightly above another 4 surfboards left for past students.

Croix, Fireren, Ponder, Deselin and PG6: I want to personally thank you five for helping me see this in a better perspective. I'm not plotting on killing anyone, nor revenge. I'm still angered whenever I hear her name or read the articles that were sent to me today. I know now there is probably a long road ahead of me, but I plan on eventually finding the real me inside me to forgive her. Everyone who I talked to about it told me it was an accident. A preventable one, but she didn't mean any harm to Dave.

Jacksterson: Thank you for the insight ahead of me. I plan on returning to the area later this afternoon to see everything in a firsthand view. I'm bringing along our old, beat up flag that used to hang up in the tree house we hung out with our friends when we were little, and that we carried with us during the aftermath of the hurricanes when we rode our bikes to buy ice. I'll either leave it at the sight of the accident or have it hang nearby his surfboard memorial. I'd figure it'd be right to do as a sign of moving on; I have plenty of other "memorabilia", if you will, left from Dave.

As for confronting her, I'm not sure about that yet. I would like to let her know that she killed my friend, but with the way my friends had explained everything to me, I'm sure she's heard enough of that. She was hospitalized after the accident and was released two days later, so she had some sort of injury or trauma. Not sure if I'm going to try to contact her this trip, but maybe next week or something threw a phone call or in person if I'm back in the area again.

I want to thank you all again for the encouragement, and putting this in a better perspective for me. It's really helped someone out.

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Deselin

Those are the words I was looking for at 4AM last night, but couldn't quite find.

I agree completely with Jacksterson, ignore my post and look at his instead.

EDIT: I'm glad I could help, even if just a little. And TribalRocket, I hope you get through this alright man. I really do. Just take Jacksterson's advice, and keep pushing forward, living your life to the fullest. I'm sure Dave would be happy to know that a piece of him is living on inside you, and all of his friends.

I wish you the best.

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hobosexual

If you don't have anything nice to say to her don't contact her at all. You think it's hard losing a friend imagine how it would be if you were the one that killed him. Dave is gone, she is still here and she's gonna have to live with this for the rest of her life.

Also the only thing I could think of while reading your post was the pirate dude from Dodgeball.

Rendascus

You should keep questioning her after you give the right ceremony and burial for your friend Dave.

Why should you question her? So you could break her. Make her feel guilty. Make her feel every pain that she has caused towards you and your family.

Croix

No. That would be pointless and heartless to do. Do you think she already doesn't feel guilty? She just killed somebody for crying out loud. What possible good would come from MORE pain being thrown into the whole scenario? It certainly wouldn't bring his dead friend back.

Rendascus

But it would bring more grief towards the person, hopefully shaping her towards a better life.

Serix

No, that would just break her spirits and send her into a down spiral of depression.

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hobosexual

Y'know if you played your cards right you could probably get her to sleep with you.

Rendascus

Well, there's a 50% chance for that.