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Part of my ADD is that every month or so, for a few days to about a week, I get quite depressed. Kind of a strange symptom of ADD to have, or for something like to even be a symptom of a condition called Attention Deficit Disorder, but there you have it.

I've had severe depression, for other reasons, but the stuff I get regularly (like clockwork) doesn't have any specific trigger. It's bizarre, and it's something my mom lives with too, among other ADD and ADHD people.

Thing about depression is it's a condition that undermines and erodes the best weapons you have against it. What you need to overcome depression varies from person to person, but typically they involve support from other people, self confidence, security in your own identity, personal efficacy and self esteem. (I understand those last four sound like the same thing, but they aren't.) But, depression is all about those things being gone.

It's important to note that depression doesn't really mean you feel blue or sad. Depression is more about the inability to feel happiness and elation whatsoever. There's an empty feeling, not necessarily a sad feeling. There can be both, but the empty feeling is the important part. If it were just sadness over a tragedy, that's typically referred to as grief. The terms get confusing, I'm not even sure exactly what it's all called now.

Small point to make here: Raiyne, there's a difference between looking at a problem and going "Look, there's nothing I can do so I'm not going to do anything about it," versus repressing the problem and internalizing it. The former is typically considered healthy; it shows you can prioritize, and let certain things not get in the way of your plans in life. Of course, it depends on what it is. Like, you can't do anything about the death of a loved one, but it's not considered healthy to just shrug your shoulders about that and move on right away. There's a lot of emotional baggage from the death of a loved one that requires attending. Which then just makes it internalizing, which is not healthy.

That's because emotions are incredibly, extremely, unbelievably powerful things. Emotions are as powerful, and as useful as the purest, most rational and reasonable of logic. It's a force to be reckoned with, and it exists as the ideas in your mind and the chemicals in your brain-organ. You don't pussyfoot (as in a cat!) around that. When you repress the emotions, you're just taking them off your mind. They're still there, lurking, and they will come back. There's a reason that repressed memories are oftentimes the most powerful memories.

When you ignore a problem that has strong emotional components, you're just delaying the problem. You can't keep it up indefinitely. No one is a super strong man carved from stone who can handle everything thrown at them, and has a loved one die of cancer every weekend and you don't shed a single tear like everyone wants every man and woman and child to be. Shit happens, and trying to be some sort of all-American strongman isn't helping, it's hurting. Nothing is gained by delaying a problem when it's a problem that by its very nature acts as if it has compound interest on the dividends of pain it's going to bring you when you deal with it.

Ultimately, everything like that has to be dealt with, and then moved on from. There's no way around it. And the emphasis is on dealt with, since you can move on from a problem without ever dealing with it, which is just pointless.

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Proxzor

I had a small depression occur several weeks ago, its a ****ed up feeling but I got over it
Moving on takes time and much thinking but eventually you'll get over the depression if you have a minor one.

I heard stories from people that they knew with a heavy depression, sitting in a closet and not wanting to come out because of the depression and the scary thought of everything in the world, quite sad to hear really and in most cases it takes a while to get rid of the depression. Some people have it more then 10 years until they get some sort of used to it.

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cell59

i am still sort of struggling with it...weed helps

tiger1526

I usually just listen to music or watch a few of my favorite movies, like rocky, don't know what it is about those movies but after watching any of them i can go from feeling like complete shit to loving the world and being extremely motivated and confident, but with the shit i've went through in my life i usually just shrug everything off now days

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Oisterboy

Coming back to this thread because I'm kinda having the self pity shit right now. Its easy to forget how crappy you can feel when you've felt alright for a long time, right?

That said, its also easy to remember just how you deal with it when you haven't had to for a while.

Last night I dealt with it by getting blackout drunk, which wasn't a very good solution. Today, I remember how I learned to just remember that feeling sorry for yourself isn't going to help you. Not even a little bit.

You've gotta think about the source of the problem and find a solution. Not all the coulda woulda shoulda, but the solution so you don't let it happen next time. Easier said than done...its certainly a process, but you've just gotta make a goal and stick to it.

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