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Eplison · 05-16-2007, 10:09 PM

Hey everyone....I just have some things that I'd like to inform and ask about.

Now I currently have my first girlfriend,and Im in 8th grade.I met her a while ago in the last school play production and learned that she liked me.I didn't want to just go assuming I like her too so I decided to hold off and get to know her,so we started talking and hanging out more.Now that I actually know her I can safely assume that I like her too...and that she's perhaps the most amazing girl I've ever met.Now,here comes the problems....
Now in most every middle school relationship,the people ussually end up just kind of going out...they don't REALLY like eachother that much and just go out for the sake of going out...now I don't want this to happen to us(either does she)So I decided I'd take our relationship slow and steady...so I won't rush anything.(this is what I think the problems are today in these kind of relationships)What do you think of me taking it steady....do you think its a good plan?

Ok new problem...We both totally like eachother...im 100% positive about that.But theres a problem...she's totally nervous to be around me in real life...im not exactly sure why or if there even is a particular reason,but it makes it harder for us to ACTUALLY talk and stuff in school.(when we are alone together she's totally cool with being with me...for the most part)I've told her about it and she says she's trying to get better at not being so shy...but she's still not so good at it,and sometimes it seems like she's too nervous to talk to me and talks to other people when we can both trust eachother with everything...and im not sure about what to do about it.

This has really been bothering me...because I REALLY like this girl...and I don't want anything stupid to come out of our relationship...or for it to just end.

If you can help at all with anything...i'd greatly appreciate it...I mean I personally don't think I'd mind spending my entire life with her.

Elion · 05-16-2007, 10:14 PM

You're very mature for taking the relationship the way you are for an 8th grader. I can understand how she's shy in public with you, it's very normal. Just give her time and eventually she should start to open up a little more.

Just take things slow the way you are and good luck. =]

Eplison · 05-16-2007, 10:18 PM

Thanks,im trying to be SMART about the relationship..not so much mature haha.Well if you say she's going to be shy...then thats ok I guess I can wait...anyway I'd still like other peoples opinions if they don't mind.

Cingal · 05-16-2007, 10:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Elion

You're very mature for taking the relationship the way you are for an 8th grader. I can understand how she's shy in public with you, it's very normal. Just give her time and eventually she should start to open up a little more.

Just take things slow the way you are and good luck. =]

I agree with you, but a girl once actually dumped me for this.... xD

Only thing I could recommend would be to try and find a common interest, once she knowns she can trust talking to you about it I'm sure she'll feel more comfortable around you. Think of her as a friend, once you both feel happy and comfortable around each other, build from there.

Eplison · 05-16-2007, 10:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cingal

I agree with you, but a girl once actually dumped me for this.... xD

Only thing I could recommend would be to try and find a common interest, once she knowns she can trust talking to you about it I'm sure she'll feel more comfortable around you. Think of her as a friend, once you both feel happy and comfortable around each other, build from there.

Don't worry...she agrees with taking it slow and stuff like that.

Thanks for the other advice though...i'll keep that in mind.

More comments welcome!

Guato617 · 05-16-2007, 11:15 PM

wow anyways.... but seriously now, You say you dont mind spending the rest of your life with her? LMAO thats what i said to myself with 3 girls. Fact is just because you might be in love right now, just be careful man.

Elion · 05-16-2007, 11:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Guato617

wow anyways.... but seriously now, You say you dont mind spending the rest of your life with her? LMAO thats what i said to myself with 3 girls. Fact is just because you might be in love right now, just be careful man.

Yeah, often times theres a hidden face you'd never even imagine inside of a person that waits untill it can grab a hold of commitment before it comes out. Obviously this doesn't go for everyone; there actually are truely kind hearted people in the world.

Eplison · 05-16-2007, 11:27 PM

Yeah,i've thought about that too...I know that I probobly DON'T really think I can actually make any kind of commitment like that...but beleive me I like her.

MiStAHxMuRkA · 05-17-2007, 12:32 AM

She's just shy, try having phone conversations with her ^____^ Damm. I actually got dumped for being shy

Eplison · 05-17-2007, 12:49 AM

Yeah I guess...but she's just shy with me mainly...and she's totally obsessed with me(says my friends...they say she talks about how she likes me all the time)

So I guess I just think its wierd that she's mainly shy with me even though we like eachother so much.

05-16-2007, 10:09 PM	#1 (permalink)
Eplison 42 Join Date: May 2006 Location: In Miinesooootaah Posts: 937 Reputation: 11	Girl...problems?Maybe. Hey everyone....I just have some things that I'd like to inform and ask about. Now I currently have my first girlfriend,and Im in 8th grade.I met her a while ago in the last school play production and learned that she liked me.I didn't want to just go assuming I like her too so I decided to hold off and get to know her,so we started talking and hanging out more.Now that I actually know her I can safely assume that I like her too...and that she's perhaps the most amazing girl I've ever met.Now,here comes the problems.... Now in most every middle school relationship,the people ussually end up just kind of going out...they don't REALLY like eachother that much and just go out for the sake of going out...now I don't want this to happen to us(either does she)So I decided I'd take our relationship slow and steady...so I won't rush anything.(this is what I think the problems are today in these kind of relationships)What do you think of me taking it steady....do you think its a good plan? Ok new problem...We both totally like eachother...im 100% positive about that.But theres a problem...she's totally nervous to be around me in real life...im not exactly sure why or if there even is a particular reason,but it makes it harder for us to ACTUALLY talk and stuff in school.(when we are alone together she's totally cool with being with me...for the most part)I've told her about it and she says she's trying to get better at not being so shy...but she's still not so good at it,and sometimes it seems like she's too nervous to talk to me and talks to other people when we can both trust eachother with everything...and im not sure about what to do about it. This has really been bothering me...because I REALLY like this girl...and I don't want anything stupid to come out of our relationship...or for it to just end. If you can help at all with anything...i'd greatly appreciate it...I mean I personally don't think I'd mind spending my entire life with her. __________________ ..::Most Recent::..

05-16-2007, 10:14 PM	#2 (permalink)
Elion Norrin Radd's Nerd Rage Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 1,666 Reputation: 74	You're very mature for taking the relationship the way you are for an 8th grader. I can understand how she's shy in public with you, it's very normal. Just give her time and eventually she should start to open up a little more. Just take things slow the way you are and good luck. =] __________________ bam pow bam

05-16-2007, 10:18 PM	#3 (permalink)
Eplison 42 Join Date: May 2006 Location: In Miinesooootaah Posts: 937 Reputation: 11	Thanks,im trying to be SMART about the relationship..not so much mature haha.Well if you say she's going to be shy...then thats ok I guess I can wait...anyway I'd still like other peoples opinions if they don't mind. __________________ ..::Most Recent::..

05-16-2007, 11:15 PM	#6 (permalink)
Guato617 Lives in City of Zeroes Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Austin Texas Posts: 639 Reputation: 10	wow anyways.... but seriously now, You say you dont mind spending the rest of your life with her? LMAO thats what i said to myself with 3 girls. Fact is just because you might be in love right now, just be careful man. __________________

05-16-2007, 11:27 PM	#8 (permalink)
Eplison 42 Join Date: May 2006 Location: In Miinesooootaah Posts: 937 Reputation: 11	Yeah,i've thought about that too...I know that I probobly DON'T really think I can actually make any kind of commitment like that...but beleive me I like her. __________________ ..::Most Recent::..

05-17-2007, 12:32 AM	#9 (permalink)
MiStAHxMuRkA Bongo Crazy Kong Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 218 Reputation: 15	She's just shy, try having phone conversations with her ^____^ Damm. I actually got dumped for being shy

05-17-2007, 12:49 AM	#10 (permalink)
Eplison 42 Join Date: May 2006 Location: In Miinesooootaah Posts: 937 Reputation: 11	Yeah I guess...but she's just shy with me mainly...and she's totally obsessed with me(says my friends...they say she talks about how she likes me all the time) So I guess I just think its wierd that she's mainly shy with me even though we like eachother so much. __________________ ..::Most Recent::..

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