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skordakis · 10-01-2007, 10:57 PM

Hey guys, i was just wondering i've gotten in to some deep shit at home that i dont really want to get in to detail with you guys but it involves drugs. How would you guys "earn your parents trust back". Could you guys possibly give me some idea's for this. I've dug a deeper hole everytime i'd say id stop.

This will be very much appreciated by everyone to co-operate and give me some feed back.

Yours truly skordakis (tttoms)

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Bacn · 10-01-2007, 11:05 PM

Just do what they tell you. They'll trust you again sooner or later.

Deimos · 10-01-2007, 11:07 PM

i hate my life, my parents dont understand me, they always yell at me and give me some bullshit lectures about their day, they dont get me at all, i hate my parents, they never give me a chance, so what if i made a few mistakes, who cares, everyone makes mistakes, but my parents never forgive me. they are bastards and i hate them, they need to ease up once in a while and get a clue, all theyve ever given me is a roof over my head, the clothes on my back and the food i eat, selfish bastards, i hate them, i dont understand why they always are mad at me, i never do anything wrong, they should be glad i havent run away yet.

Negrac · 10-01-2007, 11:12 PM

i got arrested twice in a 1 month , they trust you eventualy, just be a good kid

Shinji_Hirako · 10-01-2007, 11:16 PM

Do good deeds? Just wait a month or so. Not to long, they'll forget about it

Onii-San · 10-01-2007, 11:27 PM

Don't do drugs.

Actually follow through.

and throw away that shovel, jeez.

Oisterboy · 10-01-2007, 11:54 PM

When my mom found out I was smoking, she almost went through the roof. I just tried to have intelligent conversations about it, and coax her down a bit. She is still against me smoking...what good parent wouldn't be? But, now, she understands a lot more. I mean, she knows I still smoke, and I know she shouldn't know. Its left off on a "don't ask, don't tell, don't **** up your life and its okay" basis. Maybe you could work out something like that.

Deimos · 10-01-2007, 11:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Oisterboy

When my mom found out I was smoking, she almost went through the roof. I just tried to have intelligent conversations about it, and coax her down a bit. She is still against me smoking...what good parent wouldn't be? But, now, she understands a lot more. I mean, she knows I still smoke, and I know she shouldn't know. Its left off on a "don't ask, don't tell, don't **** up your life and its okay" basis. Maybe you could work out something like that.

smoking is kinda different to taking drugs. drugs always sounds worse no matter what.

skordakis · 10-02-2007, 12:07 AM

that is true,but when we were only dealing with weed and cigarettes they were more against the weed even tho cigarettes are worse. thanks for all the advice so far please keep more coming tho. this isnt near enough things i could do to even cross my parents minds...

Endless · 10-02-2007, 12:38 AM

I'm guessing that you won't be able to convince your parents that weed is good for you, so I'm going to ask you this. Are you sorry for what you did? If you are, then it'll be a lot easier talking to your parents.

Now, I haven't personally done this, so I'm not sure if it'll work or not. However, I would probably say something along these lines if my parents found me using drugs.

If you were sorry for what you did (and if your sure you aren't going to do it again) then you should tell your parents that you're sorry. Tell them that you're sorry and you're going to try your best to quit, but it'll be a whole lot easier if they supported you. You made a mistake, you know it, and hopefully your parents will except that you know what you did wrong, and forgive you. If it doesn't work right then and there, just give it some time. Have a conversation with your parents about why you did what you did, and what you did wrong. Try and include somethings that would tell them how you plan to quit. It would also be great if you asked them to help you quit, although you don't have to do it.

Try to start the conversation casually. Wait for your parents to be in a good mood, and bring up the subject with something along the lines of "Mom, dad, I want to talk to you about my behavior these past few weeks" or "Hey, do you think we could have a discussion about my habits?". I don't know how your parents act, but most of the time, parents like it if you say that you're wrong, and you should have listened to them. (I say 'most' based on personal experiences, so it might be different in your case) If your parents get angry check out these tips (http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/res...nd-peacefully/) to try to calm them down. It's very hard to have a talk with parents if all they can do is glare at you thinking about how they should have raised you.

If your lucky, your parents will except the apology although they might not trust you as much. Trust is a hard thing to gain; especially if you've done something to lose someone trust. Gaining it back will take a lot of time and patience. Just be helpful around the house, do things without being asked, and try to stay out of trouble. That's probably the most important thing. Staying out of trouble. If you do happen to get in trouble, tell the truth. Your parents would rather hear things from you then from another adult. Oh, and don't try too hard. I'm sure your parents can tell if you act a lot differently then you used to. They will probably say something like "Okay, what's up?". Try and change you habits a little at a time. A "Thank you" or "Let me help you with that" here and there can help a lot in the long run.

If you need more advice, just ask. I'm going to think a little bit more about the subject and see if I have anymore things to add.

10-01-2007, 10:57 PM	#1 (permalink)
skordakis Banned Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Canada, Ontario Posts: 196 Reputation: 10	Problems at home, need some advice please. Hey guys, i was just wondering i've gotten in to some deep shit at home that i dont really want to get in to detail with you guys but it involves drugs. How would you guys "earn your parents trust back". Could you guys possibly give me some idea's for this. I've dug a deeper hole everytime i'd say id stop. This will be very much appreciated by everyone to co-operate and give me some feed back. Yours truly skordakis (tttoms) 2

10-01-2007, 11:05 PM	#2 (permalink)
Bacn It's Bacon!!! Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Dogenzaka Hill Posts: 7,868 Reputation: 228	Just do what they tell you. They'll trust you again sooner or later. __________________ First Came The Question Then Came The Answer

10-01-2007, 11:16 PM	#5 (permalink)
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10-01-2007, 11:27 PM	#6 (permalink)
Onii-San Lives in City of Zeroes Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 642 Reputation: 10	Don't do drugs. Actually follow through. and throw away that shovel, jeez. __________________ "Thank goodness I have W-Blue Sky lives."

10-01-2007, 11:54 PM	#7 (permalink)
Oisterboy \| (• ◡•)\| (❍ᴥ❍ʋ) Join Date: May 2006 Location: Just Past Jupiter Posts: 16,564 Reputation: 644	When my mom found out I was smoking, she almost went through the roof. I just tried to have intelligent conversations about it, and coax her down a bit. She is still against me smoking...what good parent wouldn't be? But, now, she understands a lot more. I mean, she knows I still smoke, and I know she shouldn't know. Its left off on a "don't ask, don't tell, don't **** up your life and its okay" basis. Maybe you could work out something like that. __________________

10-01-2007, 11:12 PM	#4 (permalink)
Negrac Phantom's Freak Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Beaner Captial TX Posts: 2,552 Reputation: 13	i got arrested twice in a 1 month , they trust you eventualy, just be a good kid

10-02-2007, 12:07 AM	#9 (permalink)
skordakis Banned Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Canada, Ontario Posts: 196 Reputation: 10	that is true,but when we were only dealing with weed and cigarettes they were more against the weed even tho cigarettes are worse. thanks for all the advice so far please keep more coming tho. this isnt near enough things i could do to even cross my parents minds...

10-02-2007, 12:38 AM	#10 (permalink)
Endless SuperKenshin's Servent Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,012 Reputation: 15	I'm guessing that you won't be able to convince your parents that weed is good for you, so I'm going to ask you this. Are you sorry for what you did? If you are, then it'll be a lot easier talking to your parents. Now, I haven't personally done this, so I'm not sure if it'll work or not. However, I would probably say something along these lines if my parents found me using drugs. If you were sorry for what you did (and if your sure you aren't going to do it again) then you should tell your parents that you're sorry. Tell them that you're sorry and you're going to try your best to quit, but it'll be a whole lot easier if they supported you. You made a mistake, you know it, and hopefully your parents will except that you know what you did wrong, and forgive you. If it doesn't work right then and there, just give it some time. Have a conversation with your parents about why you did what you did, and what you did wrong. Try and include somethings that would tell them how you plan to quit. It would also be great if you asked them to help you quit, although you don't have to do it. Try to start the conversation casually. Wait for your parents to be in a good mood, and bring up the subject with something along the lines of "Mom, dad, I want to talk to you about my behavior these past few weeks" or "Hey, do you think we could have a discussion about my habits?". I don't know how your parents act, but most of the time, parents like it if you say that you're wrong, and you should have listened to them. (I say 'most' based on personal experiences, so it might be different in your case) If your parents get angry check out these tips (http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/res...nd-peacefully/) to try to calm them down. It's very hard to have a talk with parents if all they can do is glare at you thinking about how they should have raised you. If your lucky, your parents will except the apology although they might not trust you as much. Trust is a hard thing to gain; especially if you've done something to lose someone trust. Gaining it back will take a lot of time and patience. Just be helpful around the house, do things without being asked, and try to stay out of trouble. That's probably the most important thing. Staying out of trouble. If you do happen to get in trouble, tell the truth. Your parents would rather hear things from you then from another adult. Oh, and don't try too hard. I'm sure your parents can tell if you act a lot differently then you used to. They will probably say something like "Okay, what's up?". Try and change you habits a little at a time. A "Thank you" or "Let me help you with that" here and there can help a lot in the long run. If you need more advice, just ask. I'm going to think a little bit more about the subject and see if I have anymore things to add. __________________

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