If you two guys don't even like Allods and Aion, you will probably never like an MMORPG. Just stick with WoW if you think it's better than Allods.
I've liked lots of MMORPG's, it's not because I don't like the particular gameplay of Aion neither Allods (Which has really bad graphics and slow and bad PvP) that I'll never like an mmorpg. Quit thinking the mmo's YOU like are the mmo's EVERYONE likes. What a thoughtless statement.
In fact at higher levels you can't grind by yourself, but that what makes it good. All the way to high levels you socialize to make constant parties or join clans, and then train with them later and fight in pvp. It's not very often when you see 1vs1 pvp, it's usually from 3vs3 and higher.