My friend has fallen in lust with this guy she's known for a little over a month. She claims she thinks about him constantly and yearns for him when they're apart. He apparently can't resist her and likes her as well, but the thing is, he also likes another woman. She knew this when she got into the relationship. He expressed he didn't want to hurt her and that he would leave her if the other woman ever decided to be with him, but my friend is confident the other woman wouldn't pursue him. However, this still means she's not the first person in his heart, but it doesn't mean she might never be.
I think this is quite normal in relationships. You are forced to break-up and you must go on, with pre-existing feelings. I also was in love with another guy when I dated my ex, but eventually fell in love with my ex and completely extracted the other douche from my heart. However, there is another dilemma. Sometimes her BF brings up the other woman when he speaks of his traumatic past. She listens and tries to be patient with him because he's dissecting and analyzing his hurtful past with her, but that doesn't make it any less painful for her. Secretly, she's bottling up emotions she doesn't know how to release in a calm, healthy manner. She confides in me, but I also don't know what to say to her.
What advice would you give her? I'd like to avoid break-up advice pls. Not only is that an immensely awkward and heartbreaking conversation, but I firmly believe couples can work through most issues with an open-mind. If they can get through this dramatic issue, it'll likely only strengthen their bond.