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    Default Relationships in MMORPGs

    Hi everyone,

    I'm a psychology student doing my thesis on relationships in MMORPGs and I'm looking for participants. Even if you have never been in an online relationship, anyone who plays or has played an MMORPG is invited to participate! The survey will only take about 15-20 minutes. Must be 18+ in order to participate.

    It's a topic that has barely been studied and more work needs to be done. Thanks in advance to everyone who takes a look and participates! Feel free to contact me for more information.

    https://smupsychology.qualtrics.com/...LMTfijysGyN7jn


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    Great survey!! I enjoyed taking it.

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    I have completed your survey, yet I am only 16. All of your data is corrupted! hahahaha.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FarmerM View Post
    I have completed your survey, yet I am only 16. All of your data is corrupted! hahahaha.
    I'm prepared to join your rebellion
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    I lived for 3 years with a girl I met in an MMORPG. It fell apart once we discovered we had interests outside MMORPGs.

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    I personally know two relationships that blossomed from WoW. My brother and his fiancee, and my brother's friend and his wife.

    I also know my brother's friend met her husband online, but I can't recall if she met him through WoW or if it was through some other internet medium.

    I've met quite a few people from WoW and I immensely enjoyed the experience. I definitely classify it as some of the best memories I've acquired in my adulthood. I, also, did meet and have a relationship with someone, but it ended because he was verbally abusive and dishonest.

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    Relationships started in MMOs or over the internet in general are risky.
    It's really easy to screw with people.

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    I met my fiancee on a cognitive psychology & debate forum. I actually felt a deeper connection by getting to know her online first before I got to meet her IRL. We were friends online for two years and e-dated for one before we took that next step. I can say that I've never been happier in a relationship and due to us meeting online we already know what makes the other tick. We've been together for three years now and I can say that we've only fought twice and those were, in her words, misunderstandings. We see couples that started IRL get into worse fights 10 times a week.

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    Thank you for the support everyone!

    I have a personal connection and interest in the research from my own experiences (past and current) over the last decade. There is no "perfect" formula for how a strong relationship should start. Situations can work out just as well, better, or much worse when they are started online.

    To me MMORPGs have been a neutral ground where you can meet people, without the pressure of everyone knowing that you are there for the singular purpose of finding a date (ex: meeting online on a dating site). We are all there for the mutual interest in gaming, and everything extra that happens is just part of our online social world. I believe that this more organic environment can be a fantastic start for people, and I want my research to show the efficacy of these relationships.

    Thank you to everyone who took time to respond, and I hope others will join in!

    -Patricia

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    Quote Originally Posted by FarmerM View Post
    Relationships started in MMOs or over the internet in general are risky.
    It's really easy to screw with people.
    You're right, it can be easy to screw with people, and the anonymity of the internet can be a powerful motivator for trolling. When you think about it though, can't the same thing happen in person? There are enough stories of people dating someone who seems great but then when they get married it becomes a violently abusive relationship, or spending a year with someone only to find out they have been cheating on you the entire time with several other partners. Masks exist online and offline.

    Sadly nothing in this world is for certain, and if people want to be cruel relationships can be screwed with. It takes trust to connect to people, and without someone taking that first step not much happens.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FarmerM View Post
    I have completed your survey, yet I am only 16. All of your data is corrupted! hahahaha.

    If you double confirmed that your age was 18, then that's enough for me. :P The age restriction was due to the fact that the questionnaire contains questions about sexuality, so some ethical issues can arise if participants are teenagers. It would be open to pretty much anyone otherwise.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aktillum View Post
    I lived for 3 years with a girl I met in an MMORPG. It fell apart once we discovered we had interests outside MMORPGs.
    Ouch! Breaking-up after three years sounds extremely painful.

    Quote Originally Posted by TuxedoSam View Post
    I, also, did meet and have a relationship with someone, but it ended because he was verbally abusive and dishonest.
    What a jerk :l

    Quote Originally Posted by Phanein View Post
    I met my fiancee on a cognitive psychology & debate forum. I actually felt a deeper connection by getting to know her online first before I got to meet her IRL. We were friends online for two years and e-dated for one before we took that next step. I can say that I've never been happier in a relationship and due to us meeting online we already know what makes the other tick. We've been together for three years now and I can say that we've only fought twice and those were, in her words, misunderstandings. We see couples that started IRL get into worse fights 10 times a week.
    Am jelly.

    Quote Originally Posted by seikyochansu View Post
    I believe that this more organic environment can be a fantastic start for people, and I want my research to show the efficacy of these relationships.
    Interesting outlook
    I usually hear online boy/girl relations slammed with negative views, yet every so often there's a story of an online couple getting married. Also on the internet it is SO straightforward to find people with the same interests as you.

    Quote Originally Posted by seikyochansu View Post
    You're right, it can be easy to screw with people, and the anonymity of the internet can be a powerful motivator for trolling. When you think about it though, can't the same thing happen in person? [...] Masks exist online and offline.
    Yes. People underestimate the trolling that goes-on IRL. In fact, when people refer to a sour relationship they are usually referring to real life examples. It's like the foreigner thread: Are British people better/worse to date that people from your own country? And the likely answer is, there are amazing people everywhere and there are also moronic a*****es everywhere. Everyone I know (with the exception of two of my grandparents) uses the internet and out of the people I know who use the internet there are many jerks and many awesome people (and probably many people I think are awesome who act like jerks to other people)! (... And many people I consider jerks who aren't.)

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    Meh I haven't had a gf online or in rl, I guess I haven't really seen anyone my type. *sits in glass box of emotion*


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    Quote Originally Posted by Phenoca View Post
    Interesting outlook
    I usually hear online boy/girl relations slammed with negative views, yet every so often there's a story of an online couple getting married. Also on the internet it is SO straightforward to find people with the same interests as you.
    Thanks! And you're right; the reviews are usually negative because the online gaming community still doesn't have much respect. Things have changed in the last several years because online gaming isn't as much of a niche interest as it was 20 years ago, but the grey areas are massive. Even when you look at most research about online gaming, it's in a negative context (ex: addition). I want my research to bring a more positive and constructive outlook, rather than the usual research which focuses on "problems."

    Quote Originally Posted by Phenoca View Post
    Yes. People underestimate the trolling that goes-on IRL. In fact, when people refer to a sour relationship they are usually referring to real life examples. It's like the foreigner thread: Are British people better/worse to date that people from your own country? And the likely answer is, there are amazing people everywhere and there are also moronic a*****es everywhere. Everyone I know (with the exception of two of my grandparents) uses the internet and out of the people I know who use the internet there are many jerks and many awesome people (and probably many people I think are awesome who act like jerks to other people)! (... And many people I consider jerks who aren't.)
    It's easy to be a jerk online when there are no repercussions. I like to take the stance that people are allowed to be themselves online, but that doesn't always end up positively. The shy folks can come out and make friends online which they were unable to do offline (I fell into this one years ago), and sometimes people are just inherently jerks. But there are good sides to everyone. I've also had the experience where someone I thought was a huge jerk (to everyone) turned out to be very different in reality.

    Quote Originally Posted by jaydude View Post
    Meh I haven't had a gf online or in rl, I guess I haven't really seen anyone my type. *sits in glass box of emotion*
    Not a bad thing at all. I've had a plethora of relationships in most of the ways you can think of: online-only, online and met irl, online to offline long-term, offline short-term, offline casual, offline long-term... The categories can go on. For some, like me, the experiences I've gone through have been necessary for me to grow and mature. Yet for others, it only takes that one single right person and things can fall into place. Not jumping into every relationship or opportunity is a feat in itself, and it is commendable. You can sit in that glass box of emotion, but one day someone is going to come knocking and you'll have to break out!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Loric View Post
    I got married in maplestory, so I'm pretty much an MMORPG relationship expert.
    so jealoussssssssssssss
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    When I was 11 or so I had a crush on a girl in Runescape. I told her my name was Zack because I thought Zack was a cool name. I yelled at some guy trying to sell big bones for too much money to try to impress her. I should get in touch with her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheSkald View Post
    When I was 11 or so I had a crush on a girl in Runescape. I told her my name was Zack because I thought Zack was a cool name. I yelled at some guy trying to sell big bones for too much money to try to impress her. I should get in touch with her.
    You should.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paladin Catling View Post
    ...I get plenty of pussy.
    So much it even spills into your avatar picture. Swimming in it.
    Relationships in MMORPGs study: https://smupsychology.qualtrics.com/...LMTfijysGyN7jn

    If you're 18+, play/have played an MMORPG, and even if you've never had an online relationship but have an opinion about them then please participate!

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    I hooked up with a cute middle-eastern girl from Oman, she was going to college here in the states. Met her through a MUD game. We ended up breaking it off because her parents had an arranged marriage for her back home lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aktillum View Post
    I hooked up with a cute middle-eastern girl from Oman, she was going to college here in the states. Met her through a MUD game. We ended up breaking it off because her parents had an arranged marriage for her back home lol.
    Sucks about the previously arranged marriage. Makes for a good story/memory regardless though. The old school days of MUDs no less.
    Relationships in MMORPGs study: https://smupsychology.qualtrics.com/...LMTfijysGyN7jn

    If you're 18+, play/have played an MMORPG, and even if you've never had an online relationship but have an opinion about them then please participate!

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    I did your survey...

    I actually joined here to meet people that like mporgs cause I'm looking for people my age...(35+ is rare in the gaming world that I'm in...sigh) I've had really loving comfortable online relationships in the past...Conquer Online was my first MMO where I met my first bf...it was good and I miss it to be honest..anyone looking to make friends hit me up...I spend alot of time online...and I'm BORED

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    Oh the stories I could tell.

    I've forwarded the survey to a couple friends, and I'll take it myself when I have the time later.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pyper1970 View Post
    I did your survey...

    I actually joined here to meet people that like mporgs cause I'm looking for people my age...(35+ is rare in the gaming world that I'm in...sigh) I've had really loving comfortable online relationships in the past...Conquer Online was my first MMO where I met my first bf...it was good and I miss it to be honest..anyone looking to make friends hit me up...I spend alot of time online...and I'm BORED
    I started playing MMORPGs when I was 14 (almost 10 years ago now) with a friend of mine. Both of us were shy, geeky, and didn't get along well with other people our age. I found a new home in MMORPGs, and the people I met made it feel that way. I felt I fit in so much better, even though most of the people I played with were older than me. The age differences never really mattered to me, because the online world breaks down or makes invisible many of those barriers.

    Quote Originally Posted by Lefos View Post
    Oh the stories I could tell.

    I've forwarded the survey to a couple friends, and I'll take it myself when I have the time later.
    That's really awesome, thank you!

    Stories are always fun to share, and there sure as hell isn't a lack of them. When you spend years playing, meeting thousands of people, it's difficult not to come away with some crazy stories.
    Relationships in MMORPGs study: https://smupsychology.qualtrics.com/...LMTfijysGyN7jn

    If you're 18+, play/have played an MMORPG, and even if you've never had an online relationship but have an opinion about them then please participate!

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    I met my girlfriend of 5 years on WoW, so it works sometimes.

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