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    How confident are you?

    I personally have fairly low confidence.
    I don't take many chances and don't finish things that may be difficult. I want to do things but ultimately I feel it will a waste of time.

    There are a lot of people I would like to blame for it. My mother. My teachers. My wife. Is it really that hard to be a little supportive?

    I suppose there are tons of people with the resolve to be confident of themselves without any outside support.
    I'm not one of them, so ultimately me sucking is on me.
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    I'm a lot more confident that I used to be. I think going to University was a big help. About two years ago I just started putting myself in situations where I knew it would build my confidence, even if I was nervous as **** at the time (meeting new people, going to job interviews, doing public speaking, managing a team). I guess I identified what it was that made me anxious and tried my hardest to overcome them. I also attended public speaking training courses, and counselling. I went to the doctors over my anxiety because I was getting absolutely ridiculous (I would wake up nervous) and apparently I had generalised anxiety disorder. I had a bit of CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) and that helped somewhat.

    Then I guess you need to stop caring about what other people think, which I don't think is actually possible. I agree with you though, I think it depends on your life, how you were brought up and what has happened to you. Nothing like an incident that makes you question your own mortality to make you reevaluate what you should actually be worrying about in life.

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    Internets confidence level over 9000.

    IRL sober, pretty damn low.

    IRL drunk, over 1,000,000.

    I'm considering alcoholism.

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    Zom said it haha ^

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    There are lots of things I'm confident about, and others I'm not.

    If you feel that way, you should tell the people around you. Tell your wife that you don't feel confident and that more of her support would help you in a multitude of ways. And then do the same for her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TuxedoSam View Post
    There are lots of things I'm confident about, and others I'm not.

    If you feel that way, you should tell the people around you. Tell your wife that you don't feel confident and that more of her support would help you in a multitude of ways. And then do the same for her.
    You really had to gay it up didn't you?

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    i don't blame anyone else for any problems that i have. that's the easy way out, and it's destructive.

    obviously the perfect healthy solution is to exist lin the belief that you deserve anything bad that happens to you (not you specifically) because you suck, and be in a state of perpetual anger directed inward. don't tell anyone around you, because they've already got enough problems, and shouldn't have to feel obligated to help you.

    edit: that last bit had nothing to do with anyone else itt, don't get mad
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    I have some pretty major confidence/self-esteem issues. I drank excessively every day, where 90% of my wages were spent on alcohol for near enough 2 years so that I could feel more confident, but that only lead to health issues for me (Shocking news of the day: Alcohol is bad for you, guys)

    I'm pretty much at a point where I can't see any compliment aimed at me as legitimate, which just makes me doubt myself even more, and I just blame myself for everything.

    Sure, I act confident online, but it can be very different what you put across in text, than what you actually feel.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HamsterMascot View Post
    You really had to gay it up didn't you?
    Thank you for the compliment. OuO

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    There are some things I am told I don't suck at. Although, if they're complimented I tend to mindf*ck myself and end up sucking at it until I forget about it and go back to just doing it.

    I had a dream today in which I was Batman.
    I think that that says 1. I'm a nerd and 2. I should stop caring about what other people think.

    Batman doesn't have that much support, most people don't like him. But he get's sh*t done b/c it needs to be done.
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    Fake it til you make it.
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    Stay frosty.

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    That's what my ex said. am i rite guys high five lets drink some buds the game is on

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    I used to be pretty harsh on myself. Really thought I wasn't good enough for anything, recently with some events I feel much more confident, but I still find myself struggling to break out and take risks, but it's all a work in progress. I'm pretty new to "life" looking back on it I missed a lot of opportunities that I shouldn't have let pass me by.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Wicked315 View Post
    I'm pretty new to "life" looking back on it I missed a lot of opportunities that I shouldn't have let pass me by.
    Don't duby, be happy.

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    Stay frosty.

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    Ive got little shame so I guess high?
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    I mean, it depends.

    Some things I'm confident about. I'm a good student and test taker, which is reflected by my 4.0 GPA at college (for now). Some things I am not so confident at because I don't have a track record of success or have no way to gauge or predict my abilities.

    Like, for a normal person, you get confident with success. You lose confidence when you fail. Some things you succeed at more than others, some things you don't, so you'll have different amounts of confidence about different things. That's normal, and when done right, that's healthy.

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    Gain confidence by receiving affirmation that your efforts lead to success. Being around people who praise you for your effort helps. You can also maintain confidence by pretending that people who disagree with you don't exist or that their existence is irrelevant and inferior. (That's what I do.)

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