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    Default How do you deal with schoolground bullies?

    Well I'm the only girl in the study group so Im always getting the butt end of sexual innuendo jokes, and the worst is when they start making jokes directly about me. And this isnt a study group where we have to share work. But it just makes it very hard to work. I just keep silent and stomach it all.

    but im wondering if you have any ideas on how to reassert myself? I cannot change out of this group because there is no other group available here.
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    Is this a "study group", or do you actually have to work in groups for a project or some coursework?

    If you guys are meeting up to do work, and they start going off about your body/whatever, just tell them to stop messing around and start doing their work? I have a friend/group member like this (he's super thirsty), and I'll usually tell him to shut up and do his part of the work. The comments were really creepy/weird at first 'cause I've never had someone be so direct with me, but then I got used to it. Turns out a lot of guys are like this (or maybe just the guys in my class, dem thirsty engineering kids).

    If you're really uncomfortable, just tell them to quit it or you're leaving (cause they're clearly not focused on doing whatever group work you're supposed to be doing).

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    sounds like they're not used to being around girls and they're trying to flirt with you but don't know how.

    unless they're just assholes. if that's the case i'd bounce. do you have to be in this study group? could you try to find a group of ladies to study with?

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    I'm not a woman but I'd probably say, "You and I will never have sex, stop thinking about it, you're wasting your time and you'll only end up with a sore arm and a chaffed dick."
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    Just be honest and tell them to stop the crap.

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    Closed mouths are never heard. Either say something or put on some headphones and ignore them altogether.
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    Punch them right in the butthole.

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    Be competent (sucks to be held to a higher standard, but fairness is another topic).
    Choose your battles wisely.
    Make allies by being reliable, emphatic and fair yourself (also protect the weak).
    Be forgiving (or diffrently put, leave windows open for change, don't burn bridges).
    Focus on the goal of the group.
    Adress people personally, pay attention to detail and get to know them. Learn everyones strenght and weaknesses.

    That's one of those many points lists that is hard or maybe impossible to follow. What I am trying to say is, that turning a person that isn't on your team around is difficult and requirss patience. There are two simple things, that I think condense the practical advise from above:
    - Keep the long term goal in mind, always
    - Bargin for peace
    The first is your shield, the second is your weapon. Try to show that joining you is more worth it compared to fighting you.

    That's just one possible strategy. The most important thing is having a plan. Bullys that don't have a plan are easier to deal with and will give up bullying over time (or adopt an agenda). Bullys with an agenda can only be dealt with in this way once the agenda is neutealized, by either letting them reach their goal or making it impossible to reach.

    (Ps: I personally would never say "hey, im never going to have sex with you". Say "You are disgusting" or something like that instead.)

    (Ps2: Call the main bully baby names and treat him like a toddler. Not as an insult but as if it where an everyday fact of live.)
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    If someone even tries to bully me, I'll just make sure he won't have the balls to bully anyone again

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    all good advice and i like Ronin's advice also, it osunds very strategic.

    the problem is that we are required to socialise as part of our daily routine so this is when it happens. during classes I can bury myself in studies, but this is a kind of college dorm environment so I cannot escape their company.

    the other thing i find difficult is that im actually quite a violent person. so if someone bugs me i just keep quiet, but i really wwant to torture them to death or hit them in the head repeatedly with a hammer and kill them. i can't do that can i? how can i resist this?! some others of us here also seem a bit violent like me?
    Be warned - I am a major player of Regnum Online the mmo. I've been playing it for about 2 years and rarely go without logging in at least once a day. You can also look at good alternatives to Regnum such ase Aion online and Aika Online.

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