Hi my little kittens ~
Alright, I've got a question for you guys:
Have you ever been in love with a close friend, and did you tell him/her?
Or, if you haven't: would you tell him/her? Even if it could ruin your friendship?
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Hi my little kittens ~
Alright, I've got a question for you guys:
Have you ever been in love with a close friend, and did you tell him/her?
Or, if you haven't: would you tell him/her? Even if it could ruin your friendship?
If it's a guy, does he think you're hot?
If so, then yeah you should tell him
If it's a girl, does she think you're hot?
If so, then yeah you should tell her
I told a girl i was in love with her we became even more close friends
fail
Ah...classic shitty situation.
Every time I've told a close friend I liked her, it ended the friendship. I think you should tell them because its a huge load off your chest. You'll be hurt if they don't feel the same way, but ultimately I think thats better than always wondering and being miserable.
Lol, I don't think he does.Quote:
Originally Posted by Fullmetal
But frankly: I don't know, he never talks about who he thinks is hot or not, and it's sort of weird to just ask
"hey am I hot?", I don't think he'd dare to tell me he thinks I'm fugly either, lol.
You never know how long itll take for the other person to find someone.
I meen, maybe they allready got something going but hides it for different reasons or don't want everyone to know right away..
I'm not inlove at the moment, but what I probably would do.. is I would find that person, take them away from whatever they are doing, have a Face 2 Face convo.. me telling her: You know, I've got this feeling whenever i'm with you, it's almost unexplainable, but I feel like I get overshield everytime i'm around you..
Like my life becomes complete, like you are the missing part of my heart, and that I just want to tell you, I simply, just realy... love you...
I'd probably say something like that.
I told one of my friend I loved him (yes he's a he, yes I'm a he) And he doesn't really care much, he doesn't love me, he even has a GF, but he hugs me moar now <3
If someone ever said anything similar to me I'd laugh, hard. That sounds... it's just... too much ._.Quote:
Originally Posted by Darkspine
Yes, but I didn't tell QQ
Kinda regret it but oh well, passed that now.
I know this is a ******ed question...but you're gay right? :3 If so, that's really admirable of your friend. Most straight guys would turn into homophobes and shun a gay friend who was in love with them.Quote:
Originally Posted by DarkAztaroth
I'd scare him away, haha. Seriously. He'd freak out.Quote:
Originally Posted by Darkspine
Can't tell him, I'm sure I can't. : ( Just hard to be around him when it means everything to me just sitting next to him doing NOTHING AT ALL, and it doesn't mean a shit to him. I guess.
Edit: I also thought that was a little too much, but I get the point: tell him how I feel.
I used to have a crush on my best girl friend. I told her, she didn't like me back...not in the way I did anyway. I was like her brother she never had and therefore, in Québec, incest isn't accepted. :P
I think you should go for it anyway, it's a lot better than doing nothing.
I think you're better off telling them than keeping it bottled up. The worst situation I can imagine is things will be kind of awkward if the feelings aren't returned, Which will eventually fade like a breakup.
I can only speak from experience though, not some super knowledge thingy.
Well I'm bi actually ^^'Quote:
Originally Posted by Paladuck
But well he's emo and a gamer, he's not the manly sportive kind that would react by shunnin me :o I don't get attracted to those kind of guys at least xD As a plus, he likes hugs :3 But yeah, he's so kind and friendly, that's why he's totally loveable :3... If you laugh at me I'll **** you >_>
But yeah, usually telling what you feel is a good thing to do, if he/she is not interested well you stay friend... unless you get obsessive :O
Experience > "Super knowledge thingy"Quote:
Originally Posted by Elegance
Thank you : )
Trying to find the courage over here, hahah.
Friendzone = Friendzone. If they consider you as a close friend it won't be more. There is no way getting out of that zone, so don't tell.Quote:
Originally Posted by Zymbaline
Laugh?Quote:
Originally Posted by DarkAztaroth
You hurt my feelings :(
It is suposed to be romantic, and sorry for not googling what you should say to whomever you love, that is my feelings I wrote there...
Even though, I'm glad I made you laugh, I gues...
I regret not telling, as 'just going for it' is far harder than it seems. But if you do get the courage then yeah, just go for it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Zymbaline
lol, it was just too much xD you know romantism doesn't alway work too well XDQuote:
Originally Posted by Darkspine
You've guys have been friends for a while I'm guessing to be close friends. That usually means he's not really looking for a relationship with you. Even if you did start dating it wouldn't last - and you'd make your friendship awkward.
Fall out of love with him, and find some next man, because you're setting yourself up for disappointment otherwise.
As soon as I told my relatively close friend, I stopped being attracted to him. He was ok with it and everything, I think he's gay himself, but the feelings just weren't there anymore. I don't think it was "love" though, considering that I now hate every fiber in his body.
Odd, I know.
Well Zym,
I've actually been in such a situation before, and it worked out ;]
(For 10 months, she broke up with me 1 week ago :'( )
Well, idk what your kind of char is, but I'm the more of the "messing-around" type so I started with some 'jokes' when she went away shit like "Whai, dun u lub me nymore?"
just toy around, give him a hug, that doesn't say much, but it can give him some ideas,
just hang-out with him more.
You'll find out if he likes you.
If someone doesn't like someone you notice.
So I'd go with the "tell-him" but wait a few weeks,
just hang out with him a lot, find out if you still like him,
and if you do that you'll know if he likes you for sure.
Hope I helped a bit ;]
I've been in that kind of situation before. I told him how I felt and I'm glad I did.
Sorry for off-topicQuote:
Originally Posted by Bacn
but how did it work out? ;]
That's mostly a myth, really (to my experience). I mean yeah there are douchebags that would do such a thing.. but there are douchebags for every possible situation lol.Quote:
Originally Posted by Paladuck
my current girlfriend was one of my close friends.we had been friends for 3 years and i saw her go from shitty guy to shitty guy and she saw me go from **** to ****...it took 3 yrs for us to admit to each other we had a thing for one another (she txted me when i was at work on her 21st bday drunk cause her older bro took her out and she told me all her feelings lol).were going on 2+ months now so its still new but were both happy and i believe we have a healthy relationship since we already had a 3 yr friendship as our backbone.