Hi my little kittens ~
Alright, I've got a question for you guys:
Have you ever been in love with a close friend, and did you tell him/her?
Or, if you haven't: would you tell him/her? Even if it could ruin your friendship?
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Hi my little kittens ~
Alright, I've got a question for you guys:
Have you ever been in love with a close friend, and did you tell him/her?
Or, if you haven't: would you tell him/her? Even if it could ruin your friendship?
If it's a guy, does he think you're hot?
If so, then yeah you should tell him
If it's a girl, does she think you're hot?
If so, then yeah you should tell her
I told a girl i was in love with her we became even more close friends
fail
Ah...classic shitty situation.
Every time I've told a close friend I liked her, it ended the friendship. I think you should tell them because its a huge load off your chest. You'll be hurt if they don't feel the same way, but ultimately I think thats better than always wondering and being miserable.
Lol, I don't think he does.Quote:
Originally Posted by Fullmetal
But frankly: I don't know, he never talks about who he thinks is hot or not, and it's sort of weird to just ask
"hey am I hot?", I don't think he'd dare to tell me he thinks I'm fugly either, lol.
You never know how long itll take for the other person to find someone.
I meen, maybe they allready got something going but hides it for different reasons or don't want everyone to know right away..
I'm not inlove at the moment, but what I probably would do.. is I would find that person, take them away from whatever they are doing, have a Face 2 Face convo.. me telling her: You know, I've got this feeling whenever i'm with you, it's almost unexplainable, but I feel like I get overshield everytime i'm around you..
Like my life becomes complete, like you are the missing part of my heart, and that I just want to tell you, I simply, just realy... love you...
I'd probably say something like that.
I told one of my friend I loved him (yes he's a he, yes I'm a he) And he doesn't really care much, he doesn't love me, he even has a GF, but he hugs me moar now <3
If someone ever said anything similar to me I'd laugh, hard. That sounds... it's just... too much ._.Quote:
Originally Posted by Darkspine
Yes, but I didn't tell QQ
Kinda regret it but oh well, passed that now.
I know this is a ******ed question...but you're gay right? :3 If so, that's really admirable of your friend. Most straight guys would turn into homophobes and shun a gay friend who was in love with them.Quote:
Originally Posted by DarkAztaroth
I'd scare him away, haha. Seriously. He'd freak out.Quote:
Originally Posted by Darkspine
Can't tell him, I'm sure I can't. : ( Just hard to be around him when it means everything to me just sitting next to him doing NOTHING AT ALL, and it doesn't mean a shit to him. I guess.
Edit: I also thought that was a little too much, but I get the point: tell him how I feel.
I used to have a crush on my best girl friend. I told her, she didn't like me back...not in the way I did anyway. I was like her brother she never had and therefore, in Québec, incest isn't accepted. :P
I think you should go for it anyway, it's a lot better than doing nothing.
I think you're better off telling them than keeping it bottled up. The worst situation I can imagine is things will be kind of awkward if the feelings aren't returned, Which will eventually fade like a breakup.
I can only speak from experience though, not some super knowledge thingy.
Well I'm bi actually ^^'Quote:
Originally Posted by Paladuck
But well he's emo and a gamer, he's not the manly sportive kind that would react by shunnin me :o I don't get attracted to those kind of guys at least xD As a plus, he likes hugs :3 But yeah, he's so kind and friendly, that's why he's totally loveable :3... If you laugh at me I'll **** you >_>
But yeah, usually telling what you feel is a good thing to do, if he/she is not interested well you stay friend... unless you get obsessive :O
Experience > "Super knowledge thingy"Quote:
Originally Posted by Elegance
Thank you : )
Trying to find the courage over here, hahah.
Friendzone = Friendzone. If they consider you as a close friend it won't be more. There is no way getting out of that zone, so don't tell.Quote:
Originally Posted by Zymbaline
Laugh?Quote:
Originally Posted by DarkAztaroth
You hurt my feelings :(
It is suposed to be romantic, and sorry for not googling what you should say to whomever you love, that is my feelings I wrote there...
Even though, I'm glad I made you laugh, I gues...
I regret not telling, as 'just going for it' is far harder than it seems. But if you do get the courage then yeah, just go for it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Zymbaline
lol, it was just too much xD you know romantism doesn't alway work too well XDQuote:
Originally Posted by Darkspine
You've guys have been friends for a while I'm guessing to be close friends. That usually means he's not really looking for a relationship with you. Even if you did start dating it wouldn't last - and you'd make your friendship awkward.
Fall out of love with him, and find some next man, because you're setting yourself up for disappointment otherwise.
As soon as I told my relatively close friend, I stopped being attracted to him. He was ok with it and everything, I think he's gay himself, but the feelings just weren't there anymore. I don't think it was "love" though, considering that I now hate every fiber in his body.
Odd, I know.
Well Zym,
I've actually been in such a situation before, and it worked out ;]
(For 10 months, she broke up with me 1 week ago :'( )
Well, idk what your kind of char is, but I'm the more of the "messing-around" type so I started with some 'jokes' when she went away shit like "Whai, dun u lub me nymore?"
just toy around, give him a hug, that doesn't say much, but it can give him some ideas,
just hang-out with him more.
You'll find out if he likes you.
If someone doesn't like someone you notice.
So I'd go with the "tell-him" but wait a few weeks,
just hang out with him a lot, find out if you still like him,
and if you do that you'll know if he likes you for sure.
Hope I helped a bit ;]
I've been in that kind of situation before. I told him how I felt and I'm glad I did.
Sorry for off-topicQuote:
Originally Posted by Bacn
but how did it work out? ;]
That's mostly a myth, really (to my experience). I mean yeah there are douchebags that would do such a thing.. but there are douchebags for every possible situation lol.Quote:
Originally Posted by Paladuck
my current girlfriend was one of my close friends.we had been friends for 3 years and i saw her go from shitty guy to shitty guy and she saw me go from **** to ****...it took 3 yrs for us to admit to each other we had a thing for one another (she txted me when i was at work on her 21st bday drunk cause her older bro took her out and she told me all her feelings lol).were going on 2+ months now so its still new but were both happy and i believe we have a healthy relationship since we already had a 3 yr friendship as our backbone.
If it goes right, amazing.
If not, abominable. There's more chance of this. Additionally, if it goes well and THEN fails, you lose a relationship and a friendship.
Not really, they probably will think about hrrrrrr for a week or two,Quote:
Originally Posted by Norrin Radd
but if you just speak with 'em and say that you'll just be friends, and try to get over it, stuff will be back as it used to be.
Well - you can also look at it this way and decide:
Friends are lifetime.
Relationships.. Nope!
actually neither.Quote:
Originally Posted by Songz
if you had 200 friends in highschool. you have 20 after.after college (if you take it) youll have 5. then soon 3. and thensome. of course youll gain friends but the state still stands.
nothing lasts forever. even if the marriage lasts til the end of your life. thats where it ends.
There are plenty of fish in the sea.
If you tell him and he says no or the relationship doesn't work out later you will get over it eventually. Then as time goes by you will have feelings for someone else which might turn into a great relationship.
If you never tell your friend you will always be wondering about what if you asked. You will keep your one sided love with him which can last a long time. He may find someone he likes and get into a relationship while you are still stuck to him. This can hold you back from being in any other relationship.
If this person is your true friend he wont shun you even if he does reject you.
A good friend would politely refuse and you would continue with your friendship.
From experience though ill tell you this...
A girl who I grew up with had been my friend for as long as I could remember.
It took me up until my senior year in college to admit feelings I had since my freshman year in high school. It's been 4 years and I am 26 now.... And I just proposed to her after a four year relationship. Its certainly panned out for me so I would give it your best shot.
I'm so confused, some say yes, some say no. : (
I'd like to tell him how I feel, because it's really hard to keep it to myself.
But I would never want to risk our friendship.
We're not REALLY close friends, not best friends, but we're closer than 'just friends'.
It's hard to describe our friendship, it's odd.
It worked out great. We've been together ever since.Quote:
Originally Posted by hotyman
Just go tell him. If you don't do it now you might now get the chance to later.Quote:
Originally Posted by Zymbaline
As much advice as the members can give you though, you would probably be best discussing this with a family member, other close friend,etc.
Like I said, if hes a true friend (no matter how close)he definitely wont shun you as a friend.
My closest friend says I should give it a shot, but I'm still worried that it might go... Extremely wrong.
Take it from some of the older members who have been through this before, you wont feel good if you miss your chance. My friend watched a girl he loved
get married, and it was hard of him. He got over it but try no to miss your oppurtunity...
Wow this has been the deepest series of post I have ever made.... :p
A saying:
"You always will have a no, but you can get a yes."
Go out and ask, you'll feel better.
I know I did although she rejected me "because she couldn't". :/
as long as dick doesnt touch my leg during hug id be straight with it, after him saying that, if it does then well be chattin.Quote:
Originally Posted by Paladuck
not a close close friend, but someone i hung out with alot, she felt the same way, but she moved to Utah so nothing ended up goin.
well, if you like a friend as a relationship partner and not just friends its torture to not try atleast. the worse that will happen is youll both realize your not compatible and youll be friends(if your that close, if it does ruin it your friendship wasnt as strong as you thought)
if you have to find the courage and cant do it straight up, then it must not be as important as you think... just tell yourself its important and do it. the mroe you think the worse it will go, honestly.Quote:
Originally Posted by Zymbaline
unless both were to afraid to say anything and its not really a friendzone, just a made up one til someone says soemthing.Quote:
Originally Posted by Darksin
-poke- so...what? You'll go crazy like that. Tell him how you feel, get it off your chest, and don't leave anything out. If he's your close friend he's not just going to stop being friends with you because you're in love with him! And if you're in love with him and hide it, you two will quickly stop being close friends (as in, hide it and he'll definately notice you're hiding something...).Quote:
Originally Posted by Zymbaline
Long, weird explanation short:
Tell him, get it off your chest. If things go well you've got a boyfriend. If things go poorly then just smile and say you're fine staying as friends and that you just wanted to tell him.
Not the end of the world if he says no.
...though if the world does end five seconds after you confess, I signed nothing!
some people are timid and dont throw any signs....me for example, im the one always chasing cuz i usually dont flirt big time, so girls get intimitated or the wrong idea.Quote:
Originally Posted by hotyman
if its a real friendship he wont end it or make it awkward cuz you like him. the only option is to go with it. If he does, then you see his true colors and must not be that good a friend to judge you based on you liking him.Quote:
Originally Posted by Zymbaline