I have given up on girls

Guy, i have to travel WAAAAY the **** out of town just to meet a good girl to date, my town is ****ing horrible.

Just the other day i went to 7/11 where this super Gangster black guy was causing a commotion, luckily it was only for shits and giggles and everyone else jumped in, at one point he was saying something like "Man I'm trying to find a decent woman out here, why you guys gotta bash me for that" And the cashier said "Man! go out there. You'll find one!" in which he quickly stated Man This is *my town here*. We aint got quality women!" I couldn't help but laugh at this so I gave him a bro fist and walked out of the store, i didn't even buy what i wanted.

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Originally Posted by Zymbaline

Yeah, I absolutely hate that attitude, it drives me crazy!
They always blame things on guys, no matter what the problem is. ><

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Its your fault for letting them talk about their problems to you.

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Originally Posted by Bryan

So if you find the girl of your dream, what will happen then? :/

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You connect mentally and physically.
Then all the rest rolls in place.

Most likely realize after having sex a ton of times that your Dream girl isn't your soul mate - and you start soul searching.

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Originally Posted by V-Opolis

ya know blackmail is illegal?

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You failed if you didn't see that as a joke and actually believed me, remember where in the lounge.:eye:

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Originally Posted by Songz

Well that's just wrong man.



Right there! You lost the girl of your dreams.

You NEVER chase.
From the start of a conversation you should be displaying higher value then her. If you label her in your mind higher then you, you'll never get her.
You need a balance.
No one in this world is better then yo - at the end of the day, you all sit down to shit.

You have to be the guy SHE wants to chase. Its natural for men to be leaders. No woman wants a man that she is in full control with. If you ask a girl the man of her dreams, you'll always find that word CONFIDENT smacking you.
What you don't realize is how shallow that word can be.
Showing a little bit of higher value over the girl will get her INTERESTED in you.
Not the other way around.

Chasing is a horrible word.
You make it seem like she's some sort of prize you're trying to catch.
Thats what differs you from men successful with woman.

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around here chasing means you approach the person and start the convo and get their number.

and i dont need help. i havnt chased(by my definition) a girl since like freshman year of high school. They *** to me :-/

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Originally Posted by nawrasz

You failed if you didn't see that as a joke and actually believed me, remember where in the lounge.:eye:

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i dont know anymore....everytime ithink someones jokin they arnt...i just take it as serious til they say otherwise.

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Originally Posted by Zymbaline

Ehm. I don't have a problem with them talking about their problems.
My problem is that they complain about stupid things! And their attitude is so annoying.
All men aren't the same, and all women aren't either. We're all individuals, dammit.

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We're all a little difference, yes.

Tell them to lose the attitude, and tell you the story properly then.

Its much more simplistic then you think. You just don't know how to approach it.
Of course if you straight up said "Lose the attitude, and tell the story properly" the responses would be different depending on the girl. You should know the girl though, and know how to respond.

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Originally Posted by V-Opolis

around here chasing means you approach the person and start the convo and get their number.

and i dont need help. i havnt chased(by my definition) a girl since like freshman year of high school. They *** to me :-/



i dont know anymore....everytime ithink someones jokin they arnt...i just take it as serious til they say otherwise.

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Thats not chasing, we call that sarging.

Its nice that girls go to you.. yet how would you interact in a club, or in a foreign country?
Basically anywhere other then your school or work.

But I guess you're settled and happy where you are.

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Originally Posted by Songz

We're all a little difference, yes.

Tell them to lose the attitude, and tell you the story properly then.

Its much more simplistic then you think. You just don't know how to approach it.
Of course if you straight up said "Lose the attitude, and tell the story properly" the responses would be different depending on the girl. You should know the girl though, and know how to respond.



Thats not chasing, we call that sarging.

Its nice that girls go to you.. yet how would you interact in a club, or in a foreign country?
Basically anywhere other then your school or work.

But I guess you're settled and happy where you are.

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girls come to me in clubs,parties,bars. If a girl actually made me get butterflies id chase, but i think only one girl has since i started high school. Ive been told i give a strong sense of 'confidence' just cuz i simply dont care or want to chase around girls and look easy to approach cuz i tend to smile alot

we call it chasin, never heard of sarging.

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Originally Posted by V-Opolis

girls come to me in clubs,parties,bars. If a girl actually made me get butterflies id chase, but i think only one girl has since i started high school. Ive been told i give a strong sense of 'confidence' just cuz i simply dont care or want to chase around girls and look easy to approach cuz i tend to smile alot

we call it chasin, never heard of sarging.

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Well you got mad inner game then. What's what its all about.
People don't believe in themselves enough. You just need to be natural, and not allow yourself to think anyone else is better then you.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Sarging

The guys here should tell themselves positive things constantly in their heads.
It might sound stupid, but it really does build your inner confidence.

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Originally Posted by Songz

Well you got mad inner game then. What's what its all about.
People don't believe in themselves enough. You just need to be natural, and not allow yourself to think anyone else is better then you.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Sarging

The guys here should tell themselves positive things constantly in their heads.
It might sound stupid, but it really does build your inner confidence.

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Not really, girls just get my arrogance/ego confused for confidence.

I have given up on Kintou! Taste that sh!t.

In my experience the moment you stop trying to get a girl is when you find yourself with one.

Also, I loled at the whole dongs-on-your-face exchange.

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Originally Posted by Songz

Its unnecessary for me to be more detailed.



I frankly hate the jerk approach.
If you're going to be a jerk, mix fun with it.
Cocky & Funny is the way to go.

You should never leave a girl worse off then when you met her.

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Which is why I dont like it and will refrain from doing it. People like that are complete assholes for no apparent reason.

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In my experience the moment you stop trying to get a girl is when you find yourself with one.

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its when you stop actively pursuing and looking for one, and HONESTLY don't care about getting a girl is when they come to you.

no joke, if you talk to one but don't give any signals, it means your calm and cool and most girls love that.

Man, who needs a girl when you got your right hand or left, depending on the person. Amirite? :D

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Originally Posted by Songz

No no no.
He was right.
You don't have to approach a girl with the only intent of making her your girlfriend. Have you ever gotten lost and asked a woman for directions?
Now have you ever gotten lost, asked a girl for directions, then steered the conversation into having her give you her number?

There are two types of approaches.
The direct approach where you go up to her and tell her you think she was cute, and you had to speak with her. After you do that, you must stand confidently, maybe turn your body so it looks like you could walk away at any moment. Also keep strong eye contact.. and carry a long conversation(day game is slower paced; I find in day game it takes 15 minutes for a number exchange, and 30mins to an hour to kiss).

Then there is the situational approach.. where you use the situation your in to start up a conversation.
I did it all the time in the library on my computer. A simple hi to the girl beside me was enough. I act calm and cool. I'm not thinking about getting into her pants. Or getting her number. I just care about enjoying myself with her company. She in the end enjoys herself a lot, we gain a lot of rapport, and an easy number exchange is guaranteed.

You're like many of the guys in the PUA community. You don't know how to get and maintain a girls attention and have basically given up.
There is hope.
I really believe you should join a PUA community, like High School PUAs or something and start looking on the bright side.

You must remember something: this is not about picking up girls. These are just life skills that allow you to be happier and more confident. The easiest way to achieve confidence is through a womans smile. I read that somewhere, and I truly believe in it.

I became a PUA because I was bored of life. I'm still playing games, and hanging around here. But I never have a dull day, and I get the respect I always wished for from my peers.
I'm not called racist terms, I'm not being picked on, I'm not unnoticed, or anything.
I am somebody. You can be that somebody you dreamed about as well.
There is no limit on what we humans can learn and do.

You just need to want the change.

Get rid of your foolish pride, and think BETTER of yourself!

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This guy neeeds a huge fawking reward, i have never heard such words of truth before in this piss forum we call a lounge.

I am exactly like you, a somebody, why? because im just being ME, alot of people don't see that, though. I.E JERK APPROACHING/WANNA BES.

though at this moment, ive been trying to balance my life with gaming and being a social person, hard as ****, and ive been so close to just saying **** it and waiting till college, MMORPGS(p2p ones) are actually becoming interesting.

Songz is completely right, the girl i'm talking to now, I didnt go up to her and be like "Hi, I want to **** you." I just acted myself, and struck up conversation. Got her number, then a day or two later we went on a date. Its not that hard when you act yourself.
However, you might want to consider talking to girls from other schools. The rep you get in school has a huge impact on the girls you can get. My school consists of mainly rednecks, which are mainly homophobes. So, according to them, I'm a "queer" and now because the majority of the guys dont like me, the majority of the girls dont like me. I said **** it and went out to the movies with my friend and we went around acting like ourselves until we found a pair of girls who were by themselves and we just struck up conversation with them

tl;dr
Try girls that dont go to your school.

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Originally Posted by Imepime

Songz is completely right, the girl i'm talking to now, I didnt go up to her and be like "Hi, I want to **** you." I just acted myself, and struck up conversation. Got her number, then a day or two later we went on a date. Its not that hard when you act yourself.
However, you might want to consider talking to girls from other schools. The rep you get in school has a huge impact on the girls you can get. My school consists of mainly rednecks, which are mainly homophobes. So, according to them, I'm a "queer" and now because the majority of the guys dont like me, the majority of the girls dont like me. I said **** it and went out to the movies with my friend and we went around acting like ourselves until we found a pair of girls who were by themselves and we just struck up conversation with them

tl;dr
Try girls that dont go to your school.

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Yeah we got a similar redneck thing going on here too, except the freshmen crave for sex, seriously no lie, and the majority of good looking girls lead you on for the fun of it, dating girls from other schools is what me and a lot of others have been doing for years, it works.

I was expecting gay thread.


dayum.

Yeah 30 for a guy ain't that bad yet, its more of a concern for girls.

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Originally Posted by Danuve

Meh just pay for it cut out the middle man.

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I c wut u did thar....:-/

anyways, as long as you find something to do with your life, all is good~

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Originally Posted by Cingal

Guys is where it's at.

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I agree entirely.

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Originally Posted by cinderboy

Not when it leaves a guy with a hole in the pocket and nothing but sadness and despair.

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Thats why you shouldn't buy gifts for girls.
Its like begging for attention.
The more money you spend, the less chance you'll have her in bed.

Unless of course you're famous or rich. Or she's a prostitute.