I got a problem boys..

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10-18-2010, 01:05 AM
Necronax

I got a problem boys..

I remember saying to myself I would never make a personal thread on here, but whatever its the internet. Not a big deal.

Situation: So I got invited to this Halloween party, you dress up and all that. I was invited by this chick and I know there's gonna be drinking and such, but I aint a big drinker. To make it worse this would (will) be my first party. I know some of the people that will be there but I aint really friends with any of them. This problem takes the cake though: I aint never been really intimate with a women, I'm still a virgin. Don't get me wrong Ive kissed a girl, but I really dont think I want a drunk broad to be my first. So yeah I want to go, but im nervous as hell about what to expect. Im 18 and I figure I gotta live life, but yeah im just nervous hah.

Thanks fellas, its the internet I know but Im actually looking for some solid advice here.

~Necronax.
10-18-2010, 01:13 AM
bonneau_14

If you're still in highschool there is a good chance you won't be getting laid. Don't worry about the virgin thing for now.

You have to start somewhere, why not here? The more you get out the easier it gets.

People will try to force you to drink, it's not a hard thing to do, and chances are you'll like the feeling after a couple of drinks. You being a light drinker, will puke quite easily. Try not to have more than 1-3. Pace yourself. Nothing more pathetic looking than puking all over someones house.

Go to the party. Don't be nervous. Being nervous will kill you. Figure out what works for you. Stay calm and collected. Easy to say, hard to execute. It gets easier. You can't meet people if you staay inside all day.

EDIT: Alot of people go to parties just to pick fights. If you don't want to fight, don't be a smartass.
10-18-2010, 01:20 AM
Necronax

Quote:

Originally Posted by bonneau_14

If you're still in highschool there is a good chance you won't be getting laid. Don't worry about the virgin thing for now.

You have to start somewhere, why not here? The more you get out the easier it gets.

People will try to force you to drink, it's not a hard thing to do, and chances are you'll like the feeling after a couple of drinks. You being a light drinker, will puke quite easily. Try not to have more than 1-3. Pace yourself. Nothing more pathetic looking than puking all over someones house.

Go to the party. Don't be nervous. Being nervous will kill you. Figure out what works for you. Stay calm and collected. Easy to say, hard to execute. It gets easier. You can't meet people if you staay inside all day.

EDIT: Alot of people go to parties just to pick fights. If you don't want to fight, don't be a smartass.

well its my freshmen year of college, and the people that are there are gonna be those from highschool. I can get a ride there, but the girl that would pick me up is gonna be drinking and spending the night so im gonna see if I can catch a ride home with someone. Thanks for the advice so far man, yeah I get nervous about everything.
10-18-2010, 01:26 AM
gratscorpio

Seriously he is correct about people who go around looking for fights, just keep your cool and never ever leave a party alone after an altercation with someone or a group.

Other than that parties are a blast 9/10 times people just socially drinking maybe playing ruit or beer pong or some type of card game like up and down the river or **** the dealer with music either playing or not (depends the ra's where i am patrol like crazy on Thursdays so we don't play music on Thursdays just a magnet for those assholes.)

So yeah don't over drink and make some small talk you don't really need to hold full length convo's but if that occurs have fun :) and ill stress it again pace your self being wasted might seem fun but if it happens to often more and more people might begin to avoid partying with you.

scorpio
10-18-2010, 01:27 AM
bonneau_14

Just because she's spending the night doesn't mean she's gonna hop on your dick. Something might happen, but you should just play it by ear from there.

Well, Alcohol does help to steady your nerves. It's "Liquid Confindence". Have fun.
10-18-2010, 01:42 AM
Norrin Radd

All you gotta do is getcha a bunch-a them hood rats; knock them out like boom, boom, boom.

Once you done slayed like 20, 30 o' them hood rats, you ready to move up to the upper echelons.
10-18-2010, 01:44 AM
Xenonight2

Quote:

Originally Posted by Norrin Radd

All you gotta do is getcha a bunch-a them hood rats; knock them out like boom, boom, boom.

Once you done slayed like 20, 30 o' them hood rats, you ready to move up to the upper echelons.

http://www.wildsound-filmmaking-feed...old_virgin.jpg
10-18-2010, 01:45 AM
Cloud13

You don't have to drink. That eliminates any potential drunken lack of judgment.
10-18-2010, 01:47 AM
$$$

If you don't wanna drink a whole lot then don't drink a whole lot. If you don't want to screw a drunk chick then don't screw a drunk chick.
10-18-2010, 01:49 AM
Xenonight2

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheSkald

If you don't wanna drink a whole lot then don't drink a whole lot. If you don't want to screw a drunk chick then don't screw a drunk chick.

http://www.untoldentertainment.com/b...09_24/nerd.jpg
THESKALD
10-18-2010, 02:11 AM
bonneau_14

Quote:

Originally Posted by Xenonight2

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_Jo7lJoQhtj...7_1024_768.jpg
10-18-2010, 02:14 AM
$$$

Quote:

Originally Posted by Xenonight2

http://www.untoldentertainment.com/b...09_24/nerd.jpg
THESKALD

Pfft. I don't wear glasses.
10-18-2010, 02:14 AM
Norrin Radd

It's amazing how, in today's society, people look at you like a freak or a miracle if you aren't crazy about drinking.

I remember people used to say to me, "Wait...you don't smoke...or drink?", "Nah.", "You're...against drinking?", "No, I just don't enjoy alcoholic drinks or being drunk. I don't like thinking I have to drink a certain thing in a certain situation. I won't drink a beer just cos I'm in a bar. I'd rather drink something I'd drink, and enjoy, anywhere else."

This person replied, "Wow. That's amazing. You should be proud."

Baffled.
10-18-2010, 02:15 AM
bonneau_14

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheSkald

Pfft. I don't wear glasses.

http://i.imgur.com/unTOQ.jpg

Quote:

Originally Posted by Norrin Radd

It's amazing how, in today's society, people look at you like a freak or a miracle if you aren't crazy about drinking.

I remember people used to say to me, "Wait...you don't smoke...or drink?", "Nah.", "You're...against drinking?", "No, I just don't enjoy alcoholic drinks or being drunk. I don't like thinking I have to drink a certain thing in a certain situation. I won't drink a beer just cos I'm in a bar. I'd rather drink something I'd drink, and enjoy, anywhere else."

This person replied, "Wow. That's amazing. You should be proud."

Baffled.

http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_VNjsuNj8jd...Out_Gaffer.jpg
10-18-2010, 02:28 AM
$$$

I don't drink either. I don't understand the whole peer pressure thing. "Hey man, want a beer?" "Naw, I don't really drink." "OK, that's cool."

*shrugs*
10-18-2010, 03:09 AM
Xenonight2

A good pint of vodka'll solve any problems.
10-18-2010, 03:11 AM
gratscorpio

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheSkald

I don't drink either. I don't understand the whole peer pressure thing. "Hey man, want a beer?" "Naw, I don't really drink." "OK, that's cool."

*shrugs*

Peer pressure originates more from the individual than the individuals surroundings. It is not people egging them on to drink (that might occur after drinking has started though) but more of the individual wanting to fit in with a certain group of people that they will force them selves to drink even though they don't want to or don't drink at all. This applies to more than drinking smoking, wearing certain types of clothes, acting in a certain manor. The "pressure" is more the individual thinking they "must" do or wear or act in a certain manor to fit it then a group telling or forcing that individual to do, wear or act in a certain manor.

tl:dr peer pressure originates from the individuals want not the groups activities.

scorpio
10-18-2010, 04:10 AM
kuturu4FA

I get that too, when I tell them I don't drink/smoke. Kinda sad the only enjoyment for my age group is drinking around here, or drugs. My reason for not drinking, gotta keep them muscles look'n defined.
10-18-2010, 04:12 AM
Xenonight2

Who else wishes the OP had named the topic "problems with boys" so we could all talk about our boy problems
10-18-2010, 04:19 AM
Necronax

Quote:

Originally Posted by Xenonight2

Who else wishes the OP had named the topic "problems with boys" so we could all talk about our boy problems

I give my permission for you to change it.
10-18-2010, 04:26 AM
Cloud13

Quote:

Originally Posted by Norrin Radd

It's amazing how, in today's society, people look at you like a freak or a miracle if you aren't crazy about drinking.

I remember people used to say to me, "Wait...you don't smoke...or drink?", "Nah.", "You're...against drinking?", "No, I just don't enjoy alcoholic drinks or being drunk. I don't like thinking I have to drink a certain thing in a certain situation. I won't drink a beer just cos I'm in a bar. I'd rather drink something I'd drink, and enjoy, anywhere else."

This person replied, "Wow. That's amazing. You should be proud."

Baffled.

I read something before about a comedian who would be like, "So when people find out I don't drink, they go crazy. They ask questions like, 'Why don't you like it? Is it against your religion? Do you hate me for drinking?' and then I'm all like, 'Do you like mayonnaise on your sandwich?' 'No.' 'So why don't you like mayo? Is it against your religion to eat mayo? Should no one have mayo?'"

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheSkald

I don't drink either. I don't understand the whole peer pressure thing. "Hey man, want a beer?" "Naw, I don't really drink." "OK, that's cool."

*shrugs*

^ Always works for me.
10-18-2010, 05:07 AM
Runwiththelight

Let my tell you as a Junior in high school, spend the night. I have been to countless parties where I got hammered but had to go home and pull myself together. 1. It sucks being hammered at home and trying to act like you are not 2. You don't miss out on anything, and your chances of getting laid are much higher
10-18-2010, 05:44 AM
BadpcGuy

If your a virgin I suggest you not have a one night stand.
10-18-2010, 06:12 AM
power_gamer_6

SPOILER: You're not gonna bang that chick right that night.
PRO-TIP: An invitation to a party from a girl is just that: an invitation to a party.
10-18-2010, 06:22 AM
Norrin Radd

Technically that's not a tip.

You've got fail on you.
10-18-2010, 08:47 AM
Paladin Catling

Quote:

Originally Posted by Necronax

I remember saying to myself I would never make a personal thread on here, but whatever its the internet. Not a big deal.

Situation: So I got invited to this Halloween party, you dress up and all that. I was invited by this chick and I know there's gonna be drinking and such, but I aint a big drinker. To make it worse this would (will) be my first party. I know some of the people that will be there but I aint really friends with any of them. This problem takes the cake though: I aint never been really intimate with a women, I'm still a virgin. Don't get me wrong Ive kissed a girl, but I really dont think I want a drunk broad to be my first. So yeah I want to go, but im nervous as hell about what to expect. Im 18 and I figure I gotta live life, but yeah im just nervous hah.

Thanks fellas, its the internet I know but Im actually looking for some solid advice here.

~Necronax.

"with a woman" or "with women"
10-18-2010, 10:58 AM
Raiyne

Give it a chance I guess, and if she's a disappointment then you can just leave.

Or you could try to find a sensible girl who seems cool and then ditch the party.
10-18-2010, 11:07 AM
hobolord

You can party and not drink you know.
10-18-2010, 12:30 PM
Oisterman

There are some girls you respect, and your goal (believe it or not) isn't "get them as drunk as possible and have sex with them".

Theres a girl I've been seeing who I actually care about and don't want to end up like that. We drink together all the time, so its hard to avoid.

If its someone you care about, explain "No, not right now. I'm sorry to disappoint you, but I respect you too much for that. Call me, we can do it right...dinner, a movie, etc." If shes worth your time for a relationship, she will understand.

If not, shiiiiiiit, tear it up bro. There are girls that are like that too. I used to feel bad about the whole "one night stand" stuff...but not so much anymore. She wants it, you wants it, go for it.

Just don't drink yourself ******ed. I drink (kinda) often, and I have friends come over that don't drink. They try to keep up, and end up dying on my couch at about 9:29. Nobody is gonna think you're a wuss if you're not pounding them down. Grab a drink, and sip it for as long as you want. Don't worry. Edit: Don't sip a beer though, get a mixed drink. Sipping a beer only makes for disgusting, warm beer.

Edit: Lol about the fights. You guys must party with some real assholes. I dunno about you guys, but theres nobody having that shit at my parties. One fight, you're out. Forever. I don't drink and burn to be stressed, I do it to relax and have fun with my buddies on a weekend. Fighting is stresssss. No stresssss.
10-18-2010, 06:33 PM
power_gamer_6

Quote:

Originally Posted by Norrin Radd

Technically that's not a tip.

You've got fail on you.

Shut up, Norrin. What do you know about tipping? It's not even customary in Europe! You cheapasses.
10-18-2010, 06:46 PM
Xenonight2

Bwahahahaha.
10-18-2010, 07:23 PM
Froob

Your sig is so ****ing cool
10-18-2010, 07:24 PM
Xenonight2

Wait, who's?
10-18-2010, 07:24 PM
Oisterman

Quote:

Originally Posted by Xenonight2

Wait, who's?

Obviously yours man. Look at those dogs go!
10-18-2010, 07:26 PM
Xenonight2

They won't stop dancing until I get a free copy of Fallout New Vegas!
10-18-2010, 10:30 PM
$$$

My signature is more Plankton.
10-18-2010, 10:46 PM
V-Opolis

just walk in like you own the ****in place. make the party crazy. Play a game of pyramid 4 beers each side and see how you feel. go from there. if you dont drink, dont drink.

since my meds have kicked in, ive been yelling and goin crazier at parties. You just gotta go with the flow and **** your surroundings.

I finally figured out what my 3rd finger is for...people who judge.

Honestly drunk sex isnt that big a deal if you use protection. and you know the girl so im sure you know shes safe. its your choice but i say go with the flow and just take it. You may get a relationship outta it, you may get a **** outta it, or a friend, or nothing. And being a virgin and having the opportunity of getting laid is a stressful situation. You may think your going to do it wrong etc. just go with yalls chemistry and forget about being nervous.

Drunk people dont give a ****. you can just walk up to em and introduce yourself and youll have a convo start usually. People are there to SOCIALIZE and have FUN. so do both, cuz thats what everyone else is doing.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Norrin Radd

It's amazing how, in today's society, people look at you like a freak or a miracle if you aren't crazy about drinking.

I remember people used to say to me, "Wait...you don't smoke...or drink?", "Nah.", "You're...against drinking?", "No, I just don't enjoy alcoholic drinks or being drunk. I don't like thinking I have to drink a certain thing in a certain situation. I won't drink a beer just cos I'm in a bar. I'd rather drink something I'd drink, and enjoy, anywhere else."

This person replied, "Wow. That's amazing. You should be proud."

Baffled.

i dont see that your a freak if you dont drink at all? weres that from? Most people drink cuz it makes shit more fun, not cuz they have to.