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uh, i'm not really sure what to say, because that's extremely rough, but you seem like an actually cool person and i hope and think that things will work out for you.
i was never happier than when i was running long distances regularly. if you can find the time to do that or something like it (ie. long distance biking, intense swimming etc.) that might help you feel a bit better, assuming yr not doing something like that already.
Love isn't one sided and you can't force someone to change. You did good to finally end that relationship. Don't feel bad though because you are not the only one who has gone through this, believe me. A good friend of mine dated a guy for about 4-5 years and the situation was exactly the same. You dated someone who basically soaked up your time, effort, love and even money in a relationship that was based on your feelings for him, but not y'alls mutual feelings for each other.
Basically, you gotta find someone that actually wants to be with you because they care about you as a person, not just because it's convenient for them.
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Dunno what to say that can make you feel any better, other than what you've probably already heard or said yourself. If you ever need someone to play a game with, I'm always around. That's about all I can offer in support though ;_;
good on you for ending the relationship and not letting it drag on. i'm proud of you too! :)
as for the whole feeling rejected and unwanted thing, i kinda understand how that feels-ish, but i don't think i've had it as bad as you.
last relationship had this period (only 3 months; nothing compared to what you've been through) of staleness, where he was really off. he told me i wasn't the reason, so i kept trying to make things work, kept trying to make him happy. he started rejecting whatever little gestures i did, and obviously, it hurt, but i kept trying to make him happy. i know, i'm stupid, but to be fair, he explicitly told me that i wasn't the reason for his unhappiness. he broke up with me, but i didn't ask for a reason. i figured the kid would need his own time to fix whatever he was going through, and i accepted the fact that i couldn't help him out.
ended up finding out later that he broke up with me because he hated the feeling he'd get everytime he told someone he was dating a brown girl (kid was azn).
i felt so unwanted after that. there was this little period where i just hated how i looked. i still sorta hate how i look, but i don't feel as shitty as i did before. i kinda accepted the fact that most people don't dig brown chicks.
idk what i was trying to say.
ok, right. the whole feeling unwanted thing happens once in a while these days, usually when someone comments on the fact that i've been single for a rly long time.
i guess just picking up new hobbies will keep you busy, and it'll prevent your mind from wandering around, which is good! gaming works for me, so does playing soccer, and a bunch of other stuff that requires concentration. heck, trying things out of your comfort zone might be even better!
gl, and i hope everything only ends up getting better for you! :)
EDIT: you needed cheering up! silly me! this always makes me forget all of my problems. i wish i could dance like him <3
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i3pfsCS7fWI
That guy was an idiot, you're beautiful, and plenty of guys/girls dig guys/girls of all colors. You just happened to meet one that didn't. Don't let that discourage you and make you think otherwise.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kamilla
Posting to remind myself to post. I'm so good at cheerin' up. It's kinda like my thing.
But my buddy is making me drink vodka and pickle juice right now. I'll be back tomorrow with the cheering up of the year!
Although if that Finn plush isn't doing it IDK if I can help much.
Why are you feeling bad? You did the right thing.
I am not serious with that, but as soon as you see the oportunity to take a step ahead, away from that kind of past, just take it. The clouds will soon clear.
Don't dwell too much. The leassons you can learn from all of that is that it's not up to you to learn a lesson here. He was basically born and brought up in a way that didn't allow him to connect to you the way you need. You are a person who strives to improve and you can't live with someone who isn't born under the same sign. Just let your emotions fall back into the balance they are supposed to be in and you will naturally find yourself becoming more content and happy.
Don't dwell, don't linger, don't rush either. However, set yourself in motion. Keep your head straight. Bad relationships happen to almost everybody over their life. I don't see the defect on your part and the idea that you are some kind of defective is just an irrational expression of doubts that naturally arise with every decision. Don't obsess about that stuff, because it's just a made up excuse from your subconscious mind, so that you have a reason to feel bad.
I'll just leave this here
https://www.reddit.com/r/startledcats
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KbiO9HAUaUg
I don't get it either but it's funny :D
LOL /10charQuote:
Originally Posted by ultraviolence_
didnt cry writing the thing, but i did when I read all the posts here and watched the clips (all of it)
i report all of you :c
/jk
i both cried, then laughed
oh when i get a breakdowns i remember screaming "you didnt even try to save it" it happens w/o a warning.
I'm so sorry you endured such a shitty relationship. I hope my contribution helps at least slightly. These guys always make me laugh:
https://www.youtube.com/user/sup3rfruit
WTF, noooooooooooooo. I'm so sorry you had to endure such vile.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kamilla
Unfortunately, our society is still racist. I refuse to date anyone that says things like "I'm not attracted to <insert race here>." Those people are racist, but they lie to themselves, blissfully thinking that it's just a "preference." I mean, sure, you prefer to be racist, because that's what it is: a blanket racist statement.
Personally, I find tan and brown skin tones to be the most attractive. In fact, when I saw your picture, I thought you were gorgeous. I actually wish that I was capable of such a skin color. Is that creepy? :S I think that might be creepy.
MY POINT IS, you are beautiful both inside and out. Anyone who says otherwise has internal issues that has nothing to do with you and you are better off without.
I'd white all over yr brown :sexy:Quote:
Originally Posted by Kamilla
@kamilla: one of my best friends is dating a girl who had been adopted from india and that girl is fiiiiiiiiine. and he's a good looking dude himself so brown chicks can pull yo