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Ok...how do I not be shy? It's not exactly a self-esteem/confidence thing. Girls think I'm good looking, but who would want to go out with someone that's boring and never talks? <_<
I think about the future too much instead of just talking. I always think about what people reactions would be. And a lot of people say "Don't think, just act." Well it's pretty hard to do when I think so much.
So OnRPG, how can I be a more social person? :p
you seem to be like most people. You have your mouth shut and your eyes dead, and you just think. There is nothing wrong with this you just need to learn how to talk a bit I guess, and at the same time people have to accept that you are always thinking. One thing I do more than any one else I know is think about the little things and learn about anything, and now all my friends are amazed at how I can give input about any topic and can talk about almost anything. What you need to do is just start talking, it doesn't matter the topic, hell with my friends we talk about love, compassion, philosophy, games, school anything and everything. So you should be able to do the same. I guess if you want help we need more information. Age, groups, what you do when others talk, what you think about instead of talking, if it is just another topic in ur head or if u have some reason for not saying anything. A topic is anything just remember that ;).
Its simple really, be daring and just... do something outgoing. You've gotta take that first step, then you just go with the flow. 8)
do something crazy, something big enough to get attention from a LOT of people
if you are able to do that, then you should be able get over your shyness
or..........
the alternative method which i do not plan on using anytime in the future and would only work if you can drink
get drunk
you will spill lots of beans when you are drunk, or something
i know that because my..................nvm
play a huge prank on the teacher and get punished and get everyones attention and thats when ure social life takes a turn thou i wun do that
When you think of something funny to do, just do it. Don't think it over, the aftermath you'll imagine will probably be too embarrassing, and if you do choose to follow it through, the time will have passed. Keep doing it, and pretty soon it'll become a habit.
Dude Dont listen to these people there is nothing wrong with you. Just be your self and screw what anyone says. Its sounds like your trying to change your self to fit in with some Trendy faggots.
True, you don't have to change yourself just to fit in, but you can't exactly have serious relationships when you're really shy and quiet.Quote:
Originally Posted by Bod2k7
same well i can talk to girls but not relly good ya know its ussally a joke or somethin not a meaningful convosation
lol its always hard to talk to sumone you like if you dont know them, i worry that she will totally disagree with sumfin you say, i just talk to them on MSN then i have no troubles with them in the real world lol. If you make her laugh thats normally a pretty good sign lol.
Are you from the dungeon club too? Just learn to say Hi to everyone and smile the first step of friendliness.Smile and the world smile with you, frown and you frown alone. Do whatever you want but NEVER TRY TO ACT AS SOMEONE ELSE.
Alotta girls actually think im attractive too, but I just don't talk as much.
Alright, all you need to say to ANYONE is;
"Hey,___ what did you have for breskfast?!"
It always works. Unproven fact my friend!
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BE YOUR FREAKING SELF! Girls doesn't like posers. Trust me. :D
you people are freaking retarted. How is not being shy being a poser. He is trying to change his communcation habits which in no way is wrong or trying to change himself. It is something that you should always be doing over time either by adding to your vocab or the way in which you speak. He is just trying to talk a bit more to those around him, there is nothing poserish or different about that
I wasn't as shy when i was a wee boy...I'm shyier now.I only make jokes and talk at will near my friends.
Well,exept for this one time we were all hanging at the bar.There's this UGLY YUCKY Guy-like girl in my class and in a act of "Lookie i'm goodie",i say "Nelame,let's have a Man-to-Man talk".
This girl who is always...well depressed laughted like hell.
I'm a wizbiz.Yeah.
And well,i like that girl...
i have the complete opposite problem. I don't know when to keep my mouth shut (my mom reminds me of this every day)