Help with relationship

[RedrumTri]

Hi guys, I've been with my girlfriend now for about 4 years. Its been a great ride, but she did something that totally broke my trust. I don't really want to say what she did but I will say that she really hurt me. We have talked it over and it seems like she is still down with the being with me. But How in the world am I ever going to trust her again? She also likes to go out clubbing. I know its okay to go out and party once in a while but every week to me seems too much. Epically if you are in a committed relationship. How do I get her to stop going out so much. When she does go out its not just sober going out clubbing and dancing. She pops some xenex and drinks. With the influence of the drug and alcohol, inhibitions are lowered or you get to the point were your super ****ed up and don't know what your doing.

So if you guys have any advice to offer me, that would be great. I felt like I have been a zombie for the past week. Nothing feels right to me, eating doesn't feel good. Video games seem pointless to me. I just tend to sit and stare. We agreed on sometime apart, because every time I look at her I just feel super pissed on the inside and tend to just pick fights with her.

I just don't know what to do. My friends have told me to just move on. But its so hard for me. Even before we started dating she was a very close friend to me. I feel like that if I break up with her i'll also lose a good friend. So what do you guys suggest I do?

[Vesper]

... You expect us to help you without giving details of what she did?

[MariaMariaaa]

That's sad, but it doesn't seem like she cares much about your feelings.

So why chase?

Let her go, honestly. When she realizes her stupidity she'll come running back.

[holy11]

dude i was just in your position...5 minutes ago

i was just in an argument with my EX and i was sad,i wanted to cry..

then i listened to this,i was sad,i wanted to throw a brick at her face.



listening too hardrock/major goth makes me happier (my god that cant be normal)

But i can't give advice,my girl went to washington for winter,she met a dude while she was gone and totally broke my heart,the two years i was going out with her there was this girl that asked me out,she is really cute but i said no cuase i had a GF obviously, now since that ***** (my ex) left me i got with that other chick,and my life is totally BETTER NOW

SOO what im trying to say is,if she treat you like crap she IS NOT WORTH IT.

[Q_switch_css]

****! okay im going overseas back to the mmorpg section .. sick of freakin love crap.

if youre not giving full info its hard to tell.


im a professional at drugs(i own a pharmacy behind burger king alley way... jk lol) and i sniffed bullshit when you said xanax and drinks in the same line... tahts basically toxic. and no, im not bullshitting, your girl would be sleeping without breathing



if you feel super pissed.. dump the girl


any good friend=trust... i bet she cheated on you, correct?

[H4wkeye]

Dump her.Freakin drug whores.She aint worth your time.

[V-Opolis]

Hi guys, I've been with my girlfriend now for about 4 years. Its been a great ride, but she did something that totally broke my trust. I don't really want to say what she did but I will say that she really hurt me. We have talked it over and it seems like she is still down with the being with me. But How in the world am I ever going to trust her again? She also likes to go out clubbing. I know its okay to go out and party once in a while but every week to me seems too much. Epically if you are in a committed relationship. How do I get her to stop going out so much. When she does go out its not just sober going out clubbing and dancing. She pops some xenex and drinks. With the influence of the drug and alcohol, inhibitions are lowered or you get to the point were your super ****ed up and don't know what your doing.

So if you guys have any advice to offer me, that would be great. I felt like I have been a zombie for the past week. Nothing feels right to me, eating doesn't feel good. Video games seem pointless to me. I just tend to sit and stare. We agreed on sometime apart, because every time I look at her I just feel super pissed on the inside and tend to just pick fights with her.

I just don't know what to do. My friends have told me to just move on. But its so hard for me. Even before we started dating she was a very close friend to me. I feel like that if I break up with her i'll also lose a good friend. So what do you guys suggest I do?

cant change a person for yourself, either live with it or leave it. go party with her or something, maybe she does it cuz your not being as "fun" as she wants.

and ya more details could help.cheating, selling drugs or what?

[Magato]

dude i was just in your position...5 minutes ago

i was just in an argument with my EX and i was sad,i wanted to cry..

then i listened to this,i was sad,i wanted to throw a brick at her face.



listening too hardrock/major goth makes me happier (my god that cant be normal)

Dude if i listened that afterwards i would totally **** that biotch D:

[Maver64]

I dont want to throw bricks at my ex's, they want to throw bricks at me.

[holy11]

I dont want to throw bricks at my ex's, they want to throw bricks at me.

No,You sir are wrong,It's whoever gets to the brick first.

[Maver64]

No,You sir are wrong,It's whoever gets to the brick first.

Why would I want to get to the brick..

[H4wkeye]

Why would I want to get to the brick..

So you can throw it

[holy11]

Why would I want to get to the brick..

So it lands in your hand,and not your face.

And yes this thread inspired me to update my sig

[hian]

Well, why don't you go to parties with her? If not, you should just tell her flat out how you feel about it.

I'm guessing she cheated on you or something, since you're talking about how she's broken your trust.

Alcohol or drugs is not the real issue her, because she drinks the alcohol by her own choice - I.E if alcohol makes her loose(as in slutty), she knows it, and still drinks, then mate, she isn't trustworthy.
If anything you should tell her to chill with the alcohol and stuff if she can't handle it. If she isn't willing to go out with you where you can keep an eye on her, or relax a bit with the substances, then she isn't worth wasting time on.

Relationships go two ways, because you have to be two to make it work properly.
She has to take responsibility if she's going to be with you. Going to parties and doing stupid shit under the influence of alcohol or drugs is not taking responsibility.
All you can do here is give her an ultimatum, and tell her "this is how it's going to be, or I can't be with you".

Trust, once lost, is not something easily regaining. Trust is earned, and until she can prove she is trustworthy, you shouldn't trust her either.

[MariaMariaaa]

I dont want to throw bricks at my ex's, they want to throw bricks at me.

Lol, same.

They don't realize it's their fault a person leaves in the first place...

[V-Opolis]

That was probley meant for all the people who wanted too throw bricks at their Ex gf.

*cough*

AND NO Z0MBIE I DON'T NEED COUGH SYRUP

rephrase that so i understand what your saying, and no its not, it was for maria.

[holy11]

Lol, same.

They don't realize it's their fault a person leaves in the first place...

Dude,your sig is freaking me out,i just starred at it for about 5 minutes straight,and im probley scared for life.

[MariaMariaaa]

He literally stares into your soul.

Q_switch is weird like that.

[RedrumTri]

Thank you guys for the response. But here wat happened. Last saturday she went out with her friends to a club. I thought it was just girls night out. I come over the next day to her apartment. When I get inside ( her roomate let me in when she was coming home) I see her friend sleeping on her one bed, her other friend sleeping with a guy on the sofa bed, and she was sleeping with a guy on her bed. I came in and was like WTF, she got up and I saw all she had on was my really long shirt, and panties on under. I talked to the guy and he said nothing happened. But hell maybe his just trying to save his ***. I talked to her and she said nothing happened. She was just so ****ed up that she just laid on her bed to sleep and the guy was laid there too. Bullshit right? Anyways she seem really sorry for what happened and I realized when your ****ed up you really don't care were you knockout. I got over it. But the next day I was on here phone looking a vids on youtube. She get a text from this guy, the same guy. When i asked her she said her roomate was just using her phone to text the guy. Keep in mind its not just like one or two messages. There were 20 that makes it a full on conversation. So I asked her to clear it up with her roomate. She went out to talk to her roomate, and she was like hey didn't you use my phone to text this guys, and her roomate was like taken back like..."ohhh yea i did". I was like dude thats BS I caught you in a lie. I asked her why she lied to me she said that she was scared I was gonna get mad. Wouldn't telling the truth be easier, even though it hurts, its better than a lie. Then I asked her why she texted him, she said that she wanted to clear the air with him. I was like why? Its not like i yelled at the guy or kicked his ***. I just wanted to know what happened. So here we are today my friends its been a week after and I feel like shit. I wanna just punch her in her face. She has been trying to make it up to me. But everything she does now I question. It would have totally been fine if she had not contacted the guy again. But Now I can't trust her. Thats why I decided on time apart to help me get over the hurt and the anger towards her. But also to analyze our relationship. Well guys there is the whole story. Help me out here what should I do?

[Magato]

He literally stares into your soul.

Q_switch is weird like that.

i think im falling for him <3

[Magato]

Dump her and THEN punch her,so you dont punch your girlfriend.Lol.j/k.Well buddy,all i can say she isnt WORTH IT!If shes always ****ed up on drugs,and if she lost your trust,dump her and move on.I'd do that.Dont waste your time thinking about it,move on,lots of chickas around for ya.

im not sure the op is into beastiality

[Fersure]

Talk about it with her, Honestly. Too much people post this kind of shit and don't even talk to her about it.

[holy11]

Dump her and THEN punch her,so you dont punch your girlfriend.Lol.j/k.Well buddy,all i can say she isnt WORTH IT!If shes always ****ed up on drugs,and if she lost your trust,dump her and move on.I'd do that.Dont waste your time thinking about it,move on,lots of chickas around for ya.

Forget Punching,Go with the bricks.

[H4wkeye]

im not sure the op is into beastiality

Huh .Chickas is a mexican slang for girls.

Talk about it with her, Honestly. Too much people post this kind of shit and don't even talk to her about it.

Lol dude whats the point in talking to a girl whos always ****ed up on drugs and doesnt care what he feels?

[Q_switch_css]

i think im falling for him <3

who isnt?