If it goes right, amazing.
If not, abominable. There's more chance of this. Additionally, if it goes well and THEN fails, you lose a relationship and a friendship.
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If it goes right, amazing.
If not, abominable. There's more chance of this. Additionally, if it goes well and THEN fails, you lose a relationship and a friendship.
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Not really, they probably will think about hrrrrrr for a week or two,Originally Posted by Norrin Radd
but if you just speak with 'em and say that you'll just be friends, and try to get over it, stuff will be back as it used to be.
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Well - you can also look at it this way and decide:
Friends are lifetime.
Relationships.. Nope!
Me, Me, Me, GF |&| Me! D;!
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Don't you dare Rep me neither!
I don't want your petty influences upon my soul!
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actually neither.
if you had 200 friends in highschool. you have 20 after.after college (if you take it) youll have 5. then soon 3. and thensome. of course youll gain friends but the state still stands.
nothing lasts forever. even if the marriage lasts til the end of your life. thats where it ends.
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There are plenty of fish in the sea.
If you tell him and he says no or the relationship doesn't work out later you will get over it eventually. Then as time goes by you will have feelings for someone else which might turn into a great relationship.
If you never tell your friend you will always be wondering about what if you asked. You will keep your one sided love with him which can last a long time. He may find someone he likes and get into a relationship while you are still stuck to him. This can hold you back from being in any other relationship.
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If this person is your true friend he wont shun you even if he does reject you.
A good friend would politely refuse and you would continue with your friendship.
From experience though ill tell you this...
A girl who I grew up with had been my friend for as long as I could remember.
It took me up until my senior year in college to admit feelings I had since my freshman year in high school. It's been 4 years and I am 26 now.... And I just proposed to her after a four year relationship. Its certainly panned out for me so I would give it your best shot.
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I'm so confused, some say yes, some say no. : (
I'd like to tell him how I feel, because it's really hard to keep it to myself.
But I would never want to risk our friendship.
We're not REALLY close friends, not best friends, but we're closer than 'just friends'.
It's hard to describe our friendship, it's odd.
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It worked out great. We've been together ever since.
Just go tell him. If you don't do it now you might now get the chance to later.
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As much advice as the members can give you though, you would probably be best discussing this with a family member, other close friend,etc.
Like I said, if hes a true friend (no matter how close)he definitely wont shun you as a friend.
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My closest friend says I should give it a shot, but I'm still worried that it might go... Extremely wrong.
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Take it from some of the older members who have been through this before, you wont feel good if you miss your chance. My friend watched a girl he loved
get married, and it was hard of him. He got over it but try no to miss your oppurtunity...
Wow this has been the deepest series of post I have ever made....
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A saying:
"You always will have a no, but you can get a yes."
Go out and ask, you'll feel better.
I know I did although she rejected me "because she couldn't". :/
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I should update this but all my effort went into writing this lousy excuse.
as long as dick doesnt touch my leg during hug id be straight with it, after him saying that, if it does then well be chattin.
not a close close friend, but someone i hung out with alot, she felt the same way, but she moved to Utah so nothing ended up goin.
well, if you like a friend as a relationship partner and not just friends its torture to not try atleast. the worse that will happen is youll both realize your not compatible and youll be friends(if your that close, if it does ruin it your friendship wasnt as strong as you thought)
if you have to find the courage and cant do it straight up, then it must not be as important as you think... just tell yourself its important and do it. the mroe you think the worse it will go, honestly.
unless both were to afraid to say anything and its not really a friendzone, just a made up one til someone says soemthing.
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-poke- so...what? You'll go crazy like that. Tell him how you feel, get it off your chest, and don't leave anything out. If he's your close friend he's not just going to stop being friends with you because you're in love with him! And if you're in love with him and hide it, you two will quickly stop being close friends (as in, hide it and he'll definately notice you're hiding something...).
Long, weird explanation short:
Tell him, get it off your chest. If things go well you've got a boyfriend. If things go poorly then just smile and say you're fine staying as friends and that you just wanted to tell him.
Not the end of the world if he says no.
...though if the world does end five seconds after you confess, I signed nothing!
some people are timid and dont throw any signs....me for example, im the one always chasing cuz i usually dont flirt big time, so girls get intimitated or the wrong idea.
if its a real friendship he wont end it or make it awkward cuz you like him. the only option is to go with it. If he does, then you see his true colors and must not be that good a friend to judge you based on you liking him.
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Yeah, but I assume she means in the real world, not movie world. So I was just offering honest advice.
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You gona keep thinking about it if you dont tell, and might regret later.
If you tell she might say yes or no then you can move on.
I said this b4.
Tell- Possible answers- yes or no
Dont tell- possible answer- no
U know?
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I've never understood people that friendzone themselves. Why would you NOT tell this person that you're attracted to them? It makes no sense. Clearly your interests lie in a relationship, so why wouldn't you pursue that? If they say no, then you can walk away with the knowledge that it's time to move on to the next one.
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Depends on you, if your willing to take a risk then tell him and if not then just leave it because in my opinion on this situation, if your friendship is strong then i wouldnt recommend risking a good friendship. but hey thats me, i say go for it! nothing to lose.
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Usually what a lot of people (including myself) do sometimes is, if you know that someone likes you and you know that you don't like them you will still give them some attention once in a while to keep them sprung on you. Because it feels good to be loved <3
So that's the risk you run of staying friends with someone when they know that you like them.
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Gah, mixed feelings over here. Next answer will decide:
Should I or shouldn't I?
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I say go for it.
Even if she/he rejects you you should still stay friends. Yeah it'll be akward at frist, but you'll soon forget it ever happened.
I say this cuz it happened to me and we're still close as ever.
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The thing is, he has never had a girlfriend - doesn't have any kind of experience when it comes to women either, so I'm not so sure.
I'm 17.
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If he hasn't made a move on you yet, it's proooobably because he doesn't 'love' you back.
Don't ruin his innocence.
Don't do it.
just like how shes in love with him but hasnt made a move yet...? people are SCARED beings!
and what are you people? Bible worshippers? guys HAVING to make the first move ended in the 90s...
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