In love with a close friend - tell/don't tell?

[Zymbaline]

Hi my little kittens ~
Alright, I've got a question for you guys:
Have you ever been in love with a close friend, and did you tell him/her?
Or, if you haven't: would you tell him/her? Even if it could ruin your friendship?

[Fullmetal]

If it's a guy, does he think you're hot?
If so, then yeah you should tell him
If it's a girl, does she think you're hot?
If so, then yeah you should tell her

[LtPurcy]

I told a girl i was in love with her we became even more close friends

fail

[Zymbaline]

If it's a guy, does he think you're hot?
If so, then yeah you should tell him
If it's a girl, does she think you're hot?
If so, then yeah you should tell her

Lol, I don't think he does.
But frankly: I don't know, he never talks about who he thinks is hot or not, and it's sort of weird to just ask
"hey am I hot?", I don't think he'd dare to tell me he thinks I'm fugly either, lol.

[Alivada]

Yes, but I didn't tell QQ
Kinda regret it but oh well, passed that now.

[Paladuck]

Ah...classic shitty situation.

Every time I've told a close friend I liked her, it ended the friendship. I think you should tell them because its a huge load off your chest. You'll be hurt if they don't feel the same way, but ultimately I think thats better than always wondering and being miserable.

[DarkAztaroth]

I told one of my friend I loved him (yes he's a he, yes I'm a he) And he doesn't really care much, he doesn't love me, he even has a GF, but he hugs me moar now <3

I'm not inlove at the moment, but what I probably would do.. is I would find that person, take them away from whatever they are doing, have a Face 2 Face convo.. me telling her: You know, I've got this feeling whenever i'm with you, it's almost unexplainable, but I feel like I get overshield everytime i'm around you..
Like my life becomes complete, like you are the missing part of my heart, and that I just want to tell you, I simply, just realy... love you...

I'd probably say something like that.

If someone ever said anything similar to me I'd laugh, hard. That sounds... it's just... too much ._.

[Paladuck]

I told one of my friend I loved him (yes he's a he, yes I'm a he) And he doesn't really care much, he doesn't love me, he even has a GF, but he hugs me moar now <3

I know this is a ******ed question...but you're gay right? :3 If so, that's really admirable of your friend. Most straight guys would turn into homophobes and shun a gay friend who was in love with them.

[Wintersun]

I used to have a crush on my best girl friend. I told her, she didn't like me back...not in the way I did anyway. I was like her brother she never had and therefore, in Québec, incest isn't accepted. :P

I think you should go for it anyway, it's a lot better than doing nothing.

[Elegance]

I think you're better off telling them than keeping it bottled up. The worst situation I can imagine is things will be kind of awkward if the feelings aren't returned, Which will eventually fade like a breakup.

I can only speak from experience though, not some super knowledge thingy.

[DarkAztaroth]

I know this is a ******ed question...but you're gay right? :3 If so, that's really admirable of your friend. Most straight guys would turn into homophobes and shun a gay friend who was in love with them.

Well I'm bi actually ^^'

But well he's emo and a gamer, he's not the manly sportive kind that would react by shunnin me :o I don't get attracted to those kind of guys at least xD As a plus, he likes hugs :3 But yeah, he's so kind and friendly, that's why he's totally loveable :3... If you laugh at me I'll **** you >_>

But yeah, usually telling what you feel is a good thing to do, if he/she is not interested well you stay friend... unless you get obsessive :O

[Jammart]

Most straight guys would turn into homophobes and shun a gay friend who was in love with them.

That's mostly a myth, really (to my experience). I mean yeah there are douchebags that would do such a thing.. but there are douchebags for every possible situation lol.

[V-Opolis]

I know this is a ******ed question...but you're gay right? :3 If so, that's really admirable of your friend. Most straight guys would turn into homophobes and shun a gay friend who was in love with them.

as long as dick doesnt touch my leg during hug id be straight with it, after him saying that, if it does then well be chattin.

not a close close friend, but someone i hung out with alot, she felt the same way, but she moved to Utah so nothing ended up goin.

well, if you like a friend as a relationship partner and not just friends its torture to not try atleast. the worse that will happen is youll both realize your not compatible and youll be friends(if your that close, if it does ruin it your friendship wasnt as strong as you thought)

Experience > "Super knowledge thingy"

Thank you : )
Trying to find the courage over here, hahah.

if you have to find the courage and cant do it straight up, then it must not be as important as you think... just tell yourself its important and do it. the mroe you think the worse it will go, honestly.

Friendzone = Friendzone. If they consider you as a close friend it won't be more. There is no way getting out of that zone, so don't tell.

unless both were to afraid to say anything and its not really a friendzone, just a made up one til someone says soemthing.

[Darkspine]

I told one of my friend I loved him (yes he's a he, yes I'm a he) And he doesn't really care much, he doesn't love me, he even has a GF, but he hugs me moar now <3



If someone ever said anything similar to me I'd laugh, hard. That sounds... it's just... too much ._.

Laugh?
You hurt my feelings

It is suposed to be romantic, and sorry for not googling what you should say to whomever you love, that is my feelings I wrote there...
Even though, I'm glad I made you laugh, I gues...

[DarkAztaroth]

Laugh?
You hurt my feelings

It is suposed to be romantic, and sorry for not googling what you should say to whomever you love, that is my feelings I wrote there...
Even though, I'm glad I made you laugh, I gues...

lol, it was just too much xD you know romantism doesn't alway work too well

[Darkspine]

You never know how long itll take for the other person to find someone.
I meen, maybe they allready got something going but hides it for different reasons or don't want everyone to know right away..

I'm not inlove at the moment, but what I probably would do.. is I would find that person, take them away from whatever they are doing, have a Face 2 Face convo.. me telling her: You know, I've got this feeling whenever i'm with you, it's almost unexplainable, but I feel like I get overshield everytime i'm around you..
Like my life becomes complete, like you are the missing part of my heart, and that I just want to tell you, I simply, just realy... love you...

I'd probably say something like that.

[Zymbaline]

You never know how long itll take for the other person to find someone.
I meen, maybe they allready got something going but hides it for different reasons or don't want everyone to know right away..

I'm not inlove at the moment, but what I probably would do.. is I would find that person, take them away from whatever they are doing, have a Face 2 Face convo.. me telling her: You know, I've got this feeling whenever i'm with you, it's almost unexplainable, but I feel like I get overshield everytime i'm around you..
Like my life becomes complete, like you are the missing part of my heart, and that I just want to tell you, I simply, just realy... love you...

I'd probably say something like that.

I'd scare him away, haha. Seriously. He'd freak out.
Can't tell him, I'm sure I can't. : ( Just hard to be around him when it means everything to me just sitting next to him doing NOTHING AT ALL, and it doesn't mean a shit to him. I guess.

Edit: I also thought that was a little too much, but I get the point: tell him how I feel.

[Songz]

You've guys have been friends for a while I'm guessing to be close friends. That usually means he's not really looking for a relationship with you. Even if you did start dating it wouldn't last - and you'd make your friendship awkward.

Fall out of love with him, and find some next man, because you're setting yourself up for disappointment otherwise.

[Neil]

As soon as I told my relatively close friend, I stopped being attracted to him. He was ok with it and everything, I think he's gay himself, but the feelings just weren't there anymore. I don't think it was "love" though, considering that I now hate every fiber in his body.

Odd, I know.

[hotyman]

Well Zym,
I've actually been in such a situation before, and it worked out ;]
(For 10 months, she broke up with me 1 week ago :'( )

Well, idk what your kind of char is, but I'm the more of the "messing-around" type so I started with some 'jokes' when she went away shit like "Whai, dun u lub me nymore?"
just toy around, give him a hug, that doesn't say much, but it can give him some ideas,
just hang-out with him more.

You'll find out if he likes you.
If someone doesn't like someone you notice.

So I'd go with the "tell-him" but wait a few weeks,
just hang out with him a lot, find out if you still like him,
and if you do that you'll know if he likes you for sure.


Hope I helped a bit ;]

[LakeOfTears]

my current girlfriend was one of my close friends.we had been friends for 3 years and i saw her go from shitty guy to shitty guy and she saw me go from **** to ****...it took 3 yrs for us to admit to each other we had a thing for one another (she txted me when i was at work on her 21st bday drunk cause her older bro took her out and she told me all her feelings lol).were going on 2+ months now so its still new but were both happy and i believe we have a healthy relationship since we already had a 3 yr friendship as our backbone.

[Norrin Radd]

If it goes right, amazing.

If not, abominable. There's more chance of this. Additionally, if it goes well and THEN fails, you lose a relationship and a friendship.

[hotyman]

If it goes right, amazing.

If not, abominable. There's more chance of this. Additionally, if it goes well and THEN fails, you lose a relationship and a friendship.

Not really, they probably will think about hrrrrrr for a week or two,
but if you just speak with 'em and say that you'll just be friends, and try to get over it, stuff will be back as it used to be.

[Bad Hamster]

Hi my little kittens ~
Alright, I've got a question for you guys:
Have you ever been in love with a close friend, and did you tell him/her?
Or, if you haven't: would you tell him/her? Even if it could ruin your friendship?

Friendzone = Friendzone. If they consider you as a close friend it won't be more. There is no way getting out of that zone, so don't tell.