In love with a close friend - tell/don't tell?

[Paladuck]

Ah...classic shitty situation.

Every time I've told a close friend I liked her, it ended the friendship. I think you should tell them because its a huge load off your chest. You'll be hurt if they don't feel the same way, but ultimately I think thats better than always wondering and being miserable.

[DarkAztaroth]

I told one of my friend I loved him (yes he's a he, yes I'm a he) And he doesn't really care much, he doesn't love me, he even has a GF, but he hugs me moar now <3

I'm not inlove at the moment, but what I probably would do.. is I would find that person, take them away from whatever they are doing, have a Face 2 Face convo.. me telling her: You know, I've got this feeling whenever i'm with you, it's almost unexplainable, but I feel like I get overshield everytime i'm around you..
Like my life becomes complete, like you are the missing part of my heart, and that I just want to tell you, I simply, just realy... love you...

I'd probably say something like that.

If someone ever said anything similar to me I'd laugh, hard. That sounds... it's just... too much ._.

[Paladuck]

I told one of my friend I loved him (yes he's a he, yes I'm a he) And he doesn't really care much, he doesn't love me, he even has a GF, but he hugs me moar now <3

I know this is a ******ed question...but you're gay right? :3 If so, that's really admirable of your friend. Most straight guys would turn into homophobes and shun a gay friend who was in love with them.

[Wintersun]

I used to have a crush on my best girl friend. I told her, she didn't like me back...not in the way I did anyway. I was like her brother she never had and therefore, in Québec, incest isn't accepted. :P

I think you should go for it anyway, it's a lot better than doing nothing.

[Elegance]

I think you're better off telling them than keeping it bottled up. The worst situation I can imagine is things will be kind of awkward if the feelings aren't returned, Which will eventually fade like a breakup.

I can only speak from experience though, not some super knowledge thingy.

[Zymbaline]

I think you're better off telling them than keeping it bottled up. The worst situation I can imagine is things will be kind of awkward if the feelings aren't returned, Which will eventually fade like a breakup.

I can only speak from experience though, not some super knowledge thingy.

Experience > "Super knowledge thingy"

Thank you : )
Trying to find the courage over here, hahah.

[Alivada]

Experience > "Super knowledge thingy"

Thank you : )
Trying to find the courage over here, hahah.

I regret not telling, as 'just going for it' is far harder than it seems. But if you do get the courage then yeah, just go for it.

[DarkAztaroth]

I know this is a ******ed question...but you're gay right? :3 If so, that's really admirable of your friend. Most straight guys would turn into homophobes and shun a gay friend who was in love with them.

Well I'm bi actually ^^'

But well he's emo and a gamer, he's not the manly sportive kind that would react by shunnin me :o I don't get attracted to those kind of guys at least xD As a plus, he likes hugs :3 But yeah, he's so kind and friendly, that's why he's totally loveable :3... If you laugh at me I'll **** you >_>

But yeah, usually telling what you feel is a good thing to do, if he/she is not interested well you stay friend... unless you get obsessive :O

[Jammart]

Most straight guys would turn into homophobes and shun a gay friend who was in love with them.

That's mostly a myth, really (to my experience). I mean yeah there are douchebags that would do such a thing.. but there are douchebags for every possible situation lol.

[V-Opolis]

I know this is a ******ed question...but you're gay right? :3 If so, that's really admirable of your friend. Most straight guys would turn into homophobes and shun a gay friend who was in love with them.

as long as dick doesnt touch my leg during hug id be straight with it, after him saying that, if it does then well be chattin.

not a close close friend, but someone i hung out with alot, she felt the same way, but she moved to Utah so nothing ended up goin.

well, if you like a friend as a relationship partner and not just friends its torture to not try atleast. the worse that will happen is youll both realize your not compatible and youll be friends(if your that close, if it does ruin it your friendship wasnt as strong as you thought)

Experience > "Super knowledge thingy"

Thank you : )
Trying to find the courage over here, hahah.

if you have to find the courage and cant do it straight up, then it must not be as important as you think... just tell yourself its important and do it. the mroe you think the worse it will go, honestly.

Friendzone = Friendzone. If they consider you as a close friend it won't be more. There is no way getting out of that zone, so don't tell.

unless both were to afraid to say anything and its not really a friendzone, just a made up one til someone says soemthing.

[Darkspine]

I told one of my friend I loved him (yes he's a he, yes I'm a he) And he doesn't really care much, he doesn't love me, he even has a GF, but he hugs me moar now <3



If someone ever said anything similar to me I'd laugh, hard. That sounds... it's just... too much ._.

Laugh?
You hurt my feelings

It is suposed to be romantic, and sorry for not googling what you should say to whomever you love, that is my feelings I wrote there...
Even though, I'm glad I made you laugh, I gues...

[DarkAztaroth]

Laugh?
You hurt my feelings

It is suposed to be romantic, and sorry for not googling what you should say to whomever you love, that is my feelings I wrote there...
Even though, I'm glad I made you laugh, I gues...

lol, it was just too much xD you know romantism doesn't alway work too well