In love with a close friend - tell/don't tell?

[Darkspine]

You never know how long itll take for the other person to find someone.
I meen, maybe they allready got something going but hides it for different reasons or don't want everyone to know right away..

I'm not inlove at the moment, but what I probably would do.. is I would find that person, take them away from whatever they are doing, have a Face 2 Face convo.. me telling her: You know, I've got this feeling whenever i'm with you, it's almost unexplainable, but I feel like I get overshield everytime i'm around you..
Like my life becomes complete, like you are the missing part of my heart, and that I just want to tell you, I simply, just realy... love you...

I'd probably say something like that.

[Zymbaline]

You never know how long itll take for the other person to find someone.
I meen, maybe they allready got something going but hides it for different reasons or don't want everyone to know right away..

I'm not inlove at the moment, but what I probably would do.. is I would find that person, take them away from whatever they are doing, have a Face 2 Face convo.. me telling her: You know, I've got this feeling whenever i'm with you, it's almost unexplainable, but I feel like I get overshield everytime i'm around you..
Like my life becomes complete, like you are the missing part of my heart, and that I just want to tell you, I simply, just realy... love you...

I'd probably say something like that.

I'd scare him away, haha. Seriously. He'd freak out.
Can't tell him, I'm sure I can't. : ( Just hard to be around him when it means everything to me just sitting next to him doing NOTHING AT ALL, and it doesn't mean a shit to him. I guess.

Edit: I also thought that was a little too much, but I get the point: tell him how I feel.

[Songz]

You've guys have been friends for a while I'm guessing to be close friends. That usually means he's not really looking for a relationship with you. Even if you did start dating it wouldn't last - and you'd make your friendship awkward.

Fall out of love with him, and find some next man, because you're setting yourself up for disappointment otherwise.

[Neil]

As soon as I told my relatively close friend, I stopped being attracted to him. He was ok with it and everything, I think he's gay himself, but the feelings just weren't there anymore. I don't think it was "love" though, considering that I now hate every fiber in his body.

Odd, I know.

[hotyman]

Well Zym,
I've actually been in such a situation before, and it worked out ;]
(For 10 months, she broke up with me 1 week ago :'( )

Well, idk what your kind of char is, but I'm the more of the "messing-around" type so I started with some 'jokes' when she went away shit like "Whai, dun u lub me nymore?"
just toy around, give him a hug, that doesn't say much, but it can give him some ideas,
just hang-out with him more.

You'll find out if he likes you.
If someone doesn't like someone you notice.

So I'd go with the "tell-him" but wait a few weeks,
just hang out with him a lot, find out if you still like him,
and if you do that you'll know if he likes you for sure.


Hope I helped a bit ;]

[Bacn]

I've been in that kind of situation before. I told him how I felt and I'm glad I did.

[hotyman]

I've been in that kind of situation before.I told him how I felt and I'm glad I did.

Sorry for off-topic
but how did it work out? ;]

[IronyTaken]

There are plenty of fish in the sea.

If you tell him and he says no or the relationship doesn't work out later you will get over it eventually. Then as time goes by you will have feelings for someone else which might turn into a great relationship.

If you never tell your friend you will always be wondering about what if you asked. You will keep your one sided love with him which can last a long time. He may find someone he likes and get into a relationship while you are still stuck to him. This can hold you back from being in any other relationship.

[dragster]

If this person is your true friend he wont shun you even if he does reject you.
A good friend would politely refuse and you would continue with your friendship.

From experience though ill tell you this...
A girl who I grew up with had been my friend for as long as I could remember.
It took me up until my senior year in college to admit feelings I had since my freshman year in high school. It's been 4 years and I am 26 now.... And I just proposed to her after a four year relationship. Its certainly panned out for me so I would give it your best shot.

[V-Opolis]

Well Zym,
I've actually been in such a situation before, and it worked out ;]
(For 10 months, she broke up with me 1 week ago :'( )

Well, idk what your kind of char is, but I'm the more of the "messing-around" type so I started with some 'jokes' when she went away shit like "Whai, dun u lub me nymore?"
just toy around, give him a hug, that doesn't say much, but it can give him some ideas,
just hang-out with him more.

You'll find out if he likes you.
If someone doesn't like someone you notice.

So I'd go with the "tell-him" but wait a few weeks,
just hang out with him a lot, find out if you still like him,
and if you do that you'll know if he likes you for sure.


Hope I helped a bit ;]

some people are timid and dont throw any signs....me for example, im the one always chasing cuz i usually dont flirt big time, so girls get intimitated or the wrong idea.

I'm so confused, some say yes, some say no. : (
I'd like to tell him how I feel, because it's really hard to keep it to myself.

But I would never want to risk our friendship.
We're not REALLY close friends, not best friends, but we're closer than 'just friends'.
It's hard to describe our friendship, it's odd.

if its a real friendship he wont end it or make it awkward cuz you like him. the only option is to go with it. If he does, then you see his true colors and must not be that good a friend to judge you based on you liking him.

[LakeOfTears]

my current girlfriend was one of my close friends.we had been friends for 3 years and i saw her go from shitty guy to shitty guy and she saw me go from **** to ****...it took 3 yrs for us to admit to each other we had a thing for one another (she txted me when i was at work on her 21st bday drunk cause her older bro took her out and she told me all her feelings lol).were going on 2+ months now so its still new but were both happy and i believe we have a healthy relationship since we already had a 3 yr friendship as our backbone.

[Norrin Radd]

If it goes right, amazing.

If not, abominable. There's more chance of this. Additionally, if it goes well and THEN fails, you lose a relationship and a friendship.

[hotyman]

If it goes right, amazing.

If not, abominable. There's more chance of this. Additionally, if it goes well and THEN fails, you lose a relationship and a friendship.

Not really, they probably will think about hrrrrrr for a week or two,
but if you just speak with 'em and say that you'll just be friends, and try to get over it, stuff will be back as it used to be.

[Songz]

Well - you can also look at it this way and decide:
Friends are lifetime.
Relationships.. Nope!

[Claudezero]

Well - you can also look at it this way and decide:
Friends are lifetime.
Relationships.. Nope!

actually neither.

if you had 200 friends in highschool. you have 20 after.after college (if you take it) youll have 5. then soon 3. and thensome. of course youll gain friends but the state still stands.

nothing lasts forever. even if the marriage lasts til the end of your life. thats where it ends.

[Norrin Radd]

Not really, they probably will think about hrrrrrr for a week or two,
but if you just speak with 'em and say that you'll just be friends, and try to get over it, stuff will be back as it used to be.

Yeah, but I assume she means in the real world, not movie world. So I was just offering honest advice.

[Meet2]

You gona keep thinking about it if you dont tell, and might regret later.
If you tell she might say yes or no then you can move on.

I said this b4.
Tell- Possible answers- yes or no
Dont tell- possible answer- no
U know?