In love with a close friend - tell/don't tell?

[Zymbaline]

Hi my little kittens ~
Alright, I've got a question for you guys:
Have you ever been in love with a close friend, and did you tell him/her?
Or, if you haven't: would you tell him/her? Even if it could ruin your friendship?

[Fullmetal]

If it's a guy, does he think you're hot?
If so, then yeah you should tell him
If it's a girl, does she think you're hot?
If so, then yeah you should tell her

[LtPurcy]

I told a girl i was in love with her we became even more close friends

fail

[Paladuck]

Ah...classic shitty situation.

Every time I've told a close friend I liked her, it ended the friendship. I think you should tell them because its a huge load off your chest. You'll be hurt if they don't feel the same way, but ultimately I think thats better than always wondering and being miserable.

[Zymbaline]

If it's a guy, does he think you're hot?
If so, then yeah you should tell him
If it's a girl, does she think you're hot?
If so, then yeah you should tell her

Lol, I don't think he does.
But frankly: I don't know, he never talks about who he thinks is hot or not, and it's sort of weird to just ask
"hey am I hot?", I don't think he'd dare to tell me he thinks I'm fugly either, lol.

[Darkspine]

You never know how long itll take for the other person to find someone.
I meen, maybe they allready got something going but hides it for different reasons or don't want everyone to know right away..

I'm not inlove at the moment, but what I probably would do.. is I would find that person, take them away from whatever they are doing, have a Face 2 Face convo.. me telling her: You know, I've got this feeling whenever i'm with you, it's almost unexplainable, but I feel like I get overshield everytime i'm around you..
Like my life becomes complete, like you are the missing part of my heart, and that I just want to tell you, I simply, just realy... love you...

I'd probably say something like that.

[DarkAztaroth]

I told one of my friend I loved him (yes he's a he, yes I'm a he) And he doesn't really care much, he doesn't love me, he even has a GF, but he hugs me moar now <3

I'm not inlove at the moment, but what I probably would do.. is I would find that person, take them away from whatever they are doing, have a Face 2 Face convo.. me telling her: You know, I've got this feeling whenever i'm with you, it's almost unexplainable, but I feel like I get overshield everytime i'm around you..
Like my life becomes complete, like you are the missing part of my heart, and that I just want to tell you, I simply, just realy... love you...

I'd probably say something like that.

If someone ever said anything similar to me I'd laugh, hard. That sounds... it's just... too much ._.

[Alivada]

Yes, but I didn't tell QQ
Kinda regret it but oh well, passed that now.

[Paladuck]

I told one of my friend I loved him (yes he's a he, yes I'm a he) And he doesn't really care much, he doesn't love me, he even has a GF, but he hugs me moar now <3

I know this is a ******ed question...but you're gay right? :3 If so, that's really admirable of your friend. Most straight guys would turn into homophobes and shun a gay friend who was in love with them.

[Zymbaline]

You never know how long itll take for the other person to find someone.
I meen, maybe they allready got something going but hides it for different reasons or don't want everyone to know right away..

I'm not inlove at the moment, but what I probably would do.. is I would find that person, take them away from whatever they are doing, have a Face 2 Face convo.. me telling her: You know, I've got this feeling whenever i'm with you, it's almost unexplainable, but I feel like I get overshield everytime i'm around you..
Like my life becomes complete, like you are the missing part of my heart, and that I just want to tell you, I simply, just realy... love you...

I'd probably say something like that.

I'd scare him away, haha. Seriously. He'd freak out.
Can't tell him, I'm sure I can't. : ( Just hard to be around him when it means everything to me just sitting next to him doing NOTHING AT ALL, and it doesn't mean a shit to him. I guess.

Edit: I also thought that was a little too much, but I get the point: tell him how I feel.

[Wintersun]

I used to have a crush on my best girl friend. I told her, she didn't like me back...not in the way I did anyway. I was like her brother she never had and therefore, in Québec, incest isn't accepted. :P

I think you should go for it anyway, it's a lot better than doing nothing.

[Elegance]

I think you're better off telling them than keeping it bottled up. The worst situation I can imagine is things will be kind of awkward if the feelings aren't returned, Which will eventually fade like a breakup.

I can only speak from experience though, not some super knowledge thingy.

[DarkAztaroth]

I know this is a ******ed question...but you're gay right? :3 If so, that's really admirable of your friend. Most straight guys would turn into homophobes and shun a gay friend who was in love with them.

Well I'm bi actually ^^'

But well he's emo and a gamer, he's not the manly sportive kind that would react by shunnin me :o I don't get attracted to those kind of guys at least xD As a plus, he likes hugs :3 But yeah, he's so kind and friendly, that's why he's totally loveable :3... If you laugh at me I'll **** you >_>

But yeah, usually telling what you feel is a good thing to do, if he/she is not interested well you stay friend... unless you get obsessive :O

[Zymbaline]

I think you're better off telling them than keeping it bottled up. The worst situation I can imagine is things will be kind of awkward if the feelings aren't returned, Which will eventually fade like a breakup.

I can only speak from experience though, not some super knowledge thingy.

Experience > "Super knowledge thingy"

Thank you : )
Trying to find the courage over here, hahah.

[Bad Hamster]

Hi my little kittens ~
Alright, I've got a question for you guys:
Have you ever been in love with a close friend, and did you tell him/her?
Or, if you haven't: would you tell him/her? Even if it could ruin your friendship?

Friendzone = Friendzone. If they consider you as a close friend it won't be more. There is no way getting out of that zone, so don't tell.

[Darkspine]

I told one of my friend I loved him (yes he's a he, yes I'm a he) And he doesn't really care much, he doesn't love me, he even has a GF, but he hugs me moar now <3



If someone ever said anything similar to me I'd laugh, hard. That sounds... it's just... too much ._.

Laugh?
You hurt my feelings

It is suposed to be romantic, and sorry for not googling what you should say to whomever you love, that is my feelings I wrote there...
Even though, I'm glad I made you laugh, I gues...

[Alivada]

Experience > "Super knowledge thingy"

Thank you : )
Trying to find the courage over here, hahah.

I regret not telling, as 'just going for it' is far harder than it seems. But if you do get the courage then yeah, just go for it.

[DarkAztaroth]

Laugh?
You hurt my feelings

It is suposed to be romantic, and sorry for not googling what you should say to whomever you love, that is my feelings I wrote there...
Even though, I'm glad I made you laugh, I gues...

lol, it was just too much xD you know romantism doesn't alway work too well

[Songz]

You've guys have been friends for a while I'm guessing to be close friends. That usually means he's not really looking for a relationship with you. Even if you did start dating it wouldn't last - and you'd make your friendship awkward.

Fall out of love with him, and find some next man, because you're setting yourself up for disappointment otherwise.

[Neil]

As soon as I told my relatively close friend, I stopped being attracted to him. He was ok with it and everything, I think he's gay himself, but the feelings just weren't there anymore. I don't think it was "love" though, considering that I now hate every fiber in his body.

Odd, I know.

[hotyman]

Well Zym,
I've actually been in such a situation before, and it worked out ;]
(For 10 months, she broke up with me 1 week ago :'( )

Well, idk what your kind of char is, but I'm the more of the "messing-around" type so I started with some 'jokes' when she went away shit like "Whai, dun u lub me nymore?"
just toy around, give him a hug, that doesn't say much, but it can give him some ideas,
just hang-out with him more.

You'll find out if he likes you.
If someone doesn't like someone you notice.

So I'd go with the "tell-him" but wait a few weeks,
just hang out with him a lot, find out if you still like him,
and if you do that you'll know if he likes you for sure.


Hope I helped a bit ;]

[Bacn]

I've been in that kind of situation before. I told him how I felt and I'm glad I did.

[hotyman]

I've been in that kind of situation before.I told him how I felt and I'm glad I did.

Sorry for off-topic
but how did it work out? ;]

[Jammart]

Most straight guys would turn into homophobes and shun a gay friend who was in love with them.

That's mostly a myth, really (to my experience). I mean yeah there are douchebags that would do such a thing.. but there are douchebags for every possible situation lol.

[LakeOfTears]

my current girlfriend was one of my close friends.we had been friends for 3 years and i saw her go from shitty guy to shitty guy and she saw me go from **** to ****...it took 3 yrs for us to admit to each other we had a thing for one another (she txted me when i was at work on her 21st bday drunk cause her older bro took her out and she told me all her feelings lol).were going on 2+ months now so its still new but were both happy and i believe we have a healthy relationship since we already had a 3 yr friendship as our backbone.