Curiousity in Pyschology(research)

[V-Opolis]

Why not just ask her exactly what she's trying to do / tell her your intentions? That would save you a lot of trouble. The mixed reactions you're getting would be pretty confusing for anyone I guess.

this isnt a situation im in right now...so kidna hard to ask her, its a past situation, did yall read the first paragraph?

its a yes or no question(or a did but not now thing) then why.

Im just gauging opinions on someone asking a question about "does she like me"?Im trying to see if i can find a correlation or not. Ill tell you after a few opinions what my intent is(if i said it now it could skew some thoughts...). So read this, and tell me if you think she is into him or not and why. This is a situation that happened bout a year ago(easier to use a personal experience than to make one up, you have no idea how hard it is to create a hypothetical situation like this). i will not tell how it went however, just tell me if you think shes into him, or not and why. This is mostly for personal gain, wont be published or used for anything.

[Meet2]

even if she into you, she not that into you, If she was, she would give a lot more clear signs. Maybe she was just shy, depend on her personalities.

[Paladuck]

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And building on that, women love to toy with men and flirt with them even when they have no feelings towards them. So trying to read a woman is useless half of the time because their conduct sometimes doesn't follow any sort of rational form.

And to not make this sexist, men sometimes do it too

[Mazza]

Don't ever try to read a girl, not in any detail, man.

One of my closest female friends once said, when I was confused by a girl (And yes, she doesn't speak for all females) "We don't even know what we want. What makes you think men have a chance?".

I would say, the best thing to do is to evaluate the situation, and see how YOU should react best. Decide on the best C.O.A. for you, and then just let whatever happens as a result, happen.

If you try reading a girl, you run the risk of acting in a way that you think will appeal to her, and you can't do that to any real degree.

Don't be bullish and say "Oi, what are your intentions with me.", because a girl will never tell you, if she has any at all. It's arrogant to assume she has any intentions, first off.

Just casually, but not too casually, establish contact and then rebuild the bridges. Don't ask her out or anything, don't make it a date, because those come with weight. Just chill with her and do it after you've established conversational contact. Otherwise you'll be sitting with her with nothing to talk about. I guess.

I don't know the girl, so all of what I've said could be worth as much as soil.

There's absolutely no reason to be a "*****". Girls aren't something to be afraid of. Any guy that's afraid of any girl is just doing a disservice to either party.

The fact is, unless she's some kind of idiot who toys with men, she'll show you what she wants eventually. If there's one thing to be learned, it's that women go after what they want, or ditch what they don't. Just do what you feel is best and if it coincides with what she wants, you'll know because things will progress.

I mostly agree, although you may run into the "let's just be friends" situation if you play it too safe.

[Norrin Radd]

That's true, but in most cases, girls will probably have decided whether a guy is just a friend or not before he's even considered making a move and finding out.

Ask any female and most will tell you that they analyse anything potential on site. Even about chicks. If there are more than two chicks in a room, they have at least analysed each other and sized each other up at least once. They do the same with men, pretty sure. Even at a subconscious level.

Of course, if none of this works, then there's tiger uppercut.

[V-Opolis]

lol I musta worded it bad or something, cuz noone is answerin in the format of how they are suppsoe to, mission failed.

But how it ends:
the girl did like me and i was slowly self destructing the relationship because of my own insecurities and doubts(how i went from likin her to doubting it). We had a thing for a few then she moved out of state.But i do live by the philosophy of unless she herself has said the words " I DO NOT LIKE YOU" i try anyway. after this incident i made myself pledge that.

And i was trying to see if people think more in a positive manner or negative manner with these subjects, realistic or dream world ideas(cuz i hear alot of these"does she like me", and people will always be way to positive about hte situation). Shoulda prob put more thought into it from the beginning, eh my failure, oh well ill reformat it and give it another try on another forum or something. Just a curiousity thing. the backing behind it prob doesnt make sense to yall, but it help me understand the human mind( the some neutral constraints that arnt you will never know. theres a basis of understanding.) Horrible explanation, but it makes sense in my head lol.

[Norrin Radd]

lol I musta worded it bad or something, cuz noone is answerin in the format of how they are suppsoe to, mission failed.

But how it ends:
the girl did like me and i was slowly self destructing the relationship because of my own insecurities and doubts(how i went from likin her to doubting it). We had a thing for a few then she moved out of state.But i do live by the philosophy of unless she herself has said the words " I DO NOT LIKE YOU" i try anyway. after this incident i made myself pledge that.

And i was trying to see if people think more in a positive manner or negative manner with these subjects, realistic or dream world ideas(cuz i hear alot of these"does she like me", and people will always be way to positive about hte situation). Shoulda prob put more thought into it from the beginning, eh my failure, oh well ill reformat it and give it another try on another forum or something. Just a curiousity thing. the backing behind it prob doesnt make sense to yall, but it help me understand the human mind( the some neutral constraints that arnt you will never know. theres a basis of understanding.) Horrible explanation, but it makes sense in my head lol.

You're not the only one who has ever over-thought a relationship into self-destruction. Don't beat yourself up.

I used to do it because of paranoia I gained from other areas and people formerly in my life, not so much anymore, but it happens.

It's a vicious cycle. You want to get over it, but if you ignore the paranoia and it turns out to be true, you'll be less inclined to ignore the paranoia next time.

[Mazza]

Norrin, I thought that a while after I posted and decided to edit my post, but then saw your reply. I think males do this to, to a certain extent. If I see a guy sometimes I'll think "Is he cooler than me, is he smarter than me" et cetera. Although this is proberly down to my own insecurities and I'm not sure if the same applies to everyone.

[Norrin Radd]

I never fear for people being smarter than me. On your own there, homeskillet.

I feel that what works is that you get her a card with Courage Wolf on it, with the message: "DON'T THINK, ACCEPT PROPOSAL!".

[cell59]

i dont know why i read all of that..but it was interesting nonetheless...i think you should jsut man up and ask her out

[Ronin]

At what point did you ask her, if she is seeing anyone?

You didn't act very courteous and so she assumed you were not courting her.
If out of desinterest or of not knowing how to do it is probably confusing, but the answer is the same both ways.

[hobolord]

should of made a move earlier

[Urahara]

Base on the wall of text I just read, you will fail if you go for the relationship. I said it fails because you're insecure and you're over expecting. Don't be discourage, she have an interest in you.

PS. If this is solve before my post, then I'm sorry. I didn't read the replies.