friend help

[birdman16]

alright, I just wanted to know some things. and I need some advice.

Alright I got a few friends from kindergarten and were supposed to be "good friends" but none of them act that way, sure we tell eachother anything... we are literally like family, but when it comes to favours and doing stuff together I can't count on any of them

I got into a fight with one of them because everytime I ask them to chill they are always too busy or would rather stay home or would rather hang out with other friends. Another friend just gets on my nerve because he doesn't like doing anything with us and its like if I ask him to do stuff .."Hey wanna go grab something to eat" or whatever... he reacts like... hey stop bugging me... wtf..

Unfortunatly.. thse are my closest and only friends I have..

[Lawliet1]

Well if you ask me,it looks like they're retreating.

But who's army was that?

[xBlazex]

it time to move on

[Xenonight2]

Sounds like they aren't much of friends at all, sorry.

I'm not saying that to be harsh. I think I'm just confirming a suspicion that you already have.

It's not because you're a bad guy. They're probably too self-centered and caught up in their own world of being cool that they don't recognize or don't want to recognize that you're just a normal, nice person who wants to hang out.

[Bad Hamster]

Are they really friends?? I can't give any advice on this though. I dropped all my friends I've known for years the second they tried to get me into hard drugs

[Oisterman]

Aw. That sucks man, I always try to make time for everyone...sounds like you need to meet some new homies.

Don't be above craigslist. I know a guy who moved to a new city and placed and ad on there looking for some gaming buddies and had a lot of luck meeting some cool dudes. Theres no shame in finding new friends. It doesn't matter how you do it.

[firesnowball]

I hear you man, the same thing has happened to me, but its alright. Go out, meet some new people, you'll be surprised how many people you'll meet who are similar to you. Last year I befriended all the AP Computer Science guys, this year, I befriended a bunch of my coworkers. You'll never know who you find.

The key point is to just be a nice person; give people the benefit of the doubt. If you're nice to people, you'll be surprised how many people you'll meet that you may never have met before.

[V-Opolis]

childhood friends usually grow apart. One of my childhood friends got into frats and the whole broscene and im not big on frats so we kinda grew away. shit happens.

[Ronin]

You messed up because there are actually boring people in this world.

And OP sounds like you developed into the uncool one. Its okay not everyone can be a cool guy.

Who is cool, who is a tool?

It's nothing to do with boring or exciting.

People are not exciting. They either match up or they don't. No one is cool for everyone. No one is exciting for everyone.

There is no standards for cool. Actually "cool" usually means acting like a little brat that has seen nothing of this world.
That is the prime reason why older folks don't ever act "cool". If cool was the thing to aspire to that makes you friend material, people would act cooler and cooler when they grow older until they reach a maximum of coolness in their geezer stage.

Cool/boring... doesn't exist.

It only tells that you are a person who judges others.
We all do that one way or another but if you think that this is the main thing relationships with others are about, you are in for a surprise.

[Phobia]

Ronin dishing out some real talk.

Face it, time to make some new friends because once you start to think that you can force them to hang out with you and do things with you, you will just be hurting whats left of your friendship with them. The first friend I made when I first moved is now my closest friend. I started to grow apart from my closest friend but then things changed and we still remain buds for life.