What's the point of high school relationships if they don't last?

[olaph]

Actually I was just wondering why people give so much of a sht about high school relationships.... I wasn't concerned about much else.

Not many people do.

[Tyrfing]

There is no point to it.

In fact, when you're 16 or so, pretty much everything you do is pointless.

[olaph]

There is no point to it.

In fact, when you're 16 or so, pretty much everything you do is pointless.

And yet still manages to come back and bite you on the ***.

[Tyrfing]

And yet still manages to come back and bite you on the ***.

That's life.

Pointless or asshounds.

[poeticas]

Since when did love give way to logic? Truth is, if it's not going to last, it's not worth your time. Of course, they thought it was going to last at the time, but it didn't. So is life.

Ah... I miss those younger hormone driven days...

Love is one thing that even science cant figure out ... So no matter how smart are you love will make u confused

I agree with you man at that time they thought it last that can happen anyday its life we are humans we love we get hurt we stand up and move forward.

[shadowsworn]

what's the point of life. you'll die soon anyway.

[djfizzle]

You do everything for the experiences. Not everything has to be long term.

[hybridchic]

My girlfriend and I are both 16, we've been together for a year and a few months and really, so far the chances are pretty high we will still be together when we finish.
I know people who were in a relationship in high school that have now been married for years. It all just depends on who you meet, and how you get along with that person. If you are constantly fighting, chances are you're not going to last long.

So really, there is a point to them, but it is only what you make of it. Maybe you don't last, at least you had some fun. If you didn't you should have left a long time ago.

First day of high school I met this geek who didn't ogle me or try to cop a feel or anything. And he had an opinion about stuff as he showed me where my next class was. We could talk, we could argue in a civilized manner. And I liked the way his mouth looked. We ended up married.

As for constantly fighting... Some relationships need those arguments about stupid stuff to work. Gives them a chance to blow some steam or whatever. You do not want to be in a relationship that is 'seemingly perfect' and in the middle of the night youhave massive arguments about how the reading light is too bright.

@All the people referring to experience, I hope you don't mean sex because that is immoral before marriage. *nod*

Premarital sex is the best kind of sex. Under most circumstances. Some times. Being married you're supposed to be faithful. For most traditional relationships this means you will only be seeing the same genitalia over and over again. That's like saying there are 39 flavors of icecream but you are only allowed to ever eat the same one over and over again. You know it's love (or something else equally special) when you're ready to trade in the rest of those flavors of icecream.

It all depends on your maturity, morals and goals.

If you are in it for purely selfish reasons then the more the better. You get fun, 'experience' and no responsibility.

If you are mature and really looking at long term, as in your future in life and how the relationship will work in it, then it is a trickier question.
IF both parties are mature, and honestly interested in a the traditional life long mating, then it really doesn't matter when they meet, but the problem lies in finding 2 compatible people like that of high school age. (heck its hard enough to find 2 compatible people that meet that criteria in their 20s and 30s)

Lies. As someone that has been through high school and college, trust me I've met girls and I've played truth or dare. Every girl somewhere in the back of their mind dreams of the prince and happily ever after on the first try. Few exceptions. It does not matter how mature the guy is. It doesn't matter where he's at in life. Once she sets her sights on him and is willing to date him, she has almost 100% of the time made up her mind about him being the one.

Regardless of who or when or how old, any relationship takes real commitment from both parties. High school relationships tend to be more relationships of convenience than of commitment, and that is where the problems come from.
When the relationship is no longer convenient, then both parties need to be willing to make the effort to make it work. This requires sacrifice that most high school age are not willing to make.

Agreed.

Actually I was just wondering why people give so much of a sht about high school relationships.... I wasn't concerned about much else.

because not all of us are antisocial sociopaths incapable of caring or desiring contact with others.
Truthfully though... it was the sex talk. I liked sex. I liked the idea of trusting someone enough to know/believe they would want me so much as to not cheat and vice verse. It meant I had one less thing to worry about.

[Jyncs]

You do everything for the experiences. Not everything has to be long term.

This right here. Just because they tend to not last doesn't mean you can't learn a lot or have some fun.

[hian]

because not all of us are antisocial sociopaths incapable of caring or desiring contact with others.

I hope for your sake, that's not what you actually read into that post...

Not giving a shit about high school relationships doesn't make an "antisocial sociopath"(which is a completely nonsensical combination of terms, so learn the meaning before using the words) incapable of caring or desiring contact with others.

By that logic, we could just as easily argue that anyone who actually care, or put a lot of emotion into a high-school relationship, is an over-emotional, and naive individual with dependancy issues.

Personally, I think it's better to not give a shit about HS relationships.
If you don't give a shit, but find love comming your way, you'll be so much happier for it. If it doesn't, you haven't invested anything, so you don't lose anything either.
If you however, get sickly attached to the idea of HS romances and the other sex, you'll probably just get exploited, end up dissappointed, or end up screwing yourself over.

Note that I actually had my first long term relationship when I entered HS. I dated that girl for 4-5 years. Was a very important life-experience to me. I'm just saying, I didn't give a shit about high-school dating. I didn't invest anything into the act of finding someone to date, nor did I invest much feelings into keeping the relationship together. It just stuck naturally, which IMO is the best way to go.

Forcing yourself to invest energy and feelings into high school stuff, just because some people go "NOOO U SO ANTISOCIAL LOOSER" if you don't, is ******ed and weak-minded.

The people who feel superior for having taken part in the "high school experience" and feel the need to put down those who considered that experience to be redundant is ******ed, and petty-minded.

But then again, I'm sure that wasn't what you were implying now was it?

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And now to the meat of this thread:
There is no inherent point or meaning to relationships(high school or otherwise).
You do it because you feel like it.
You don't need any justification for it, nor is it a mystery.
Asking what the point of relationships is, is as meaningless as asking why individual X prefers chocolate to strawberry.
It's all about what you feel inclined to do.
I felt inclined to snatch this one girl because I found her attractive, end of story.
If you don't feel the same, don't waste your time.

Anyone who tells you differently is a control-freak with an inferiority complex.

[cyber7chink]

I have three close friends who are still with their high school sweethearts and they all graduated in '93.

The one who said they dont last, must have gotten butthurt.

[hian]

Hope is the most useless emotion ever.

Sure it is. Especially since you assert it to be so...

I'll assume you've actually been to high school or at some point during your teenage life had the pleasure of interacting with teenagers.

If you'd bother to read my entire reply before replying, you wouldn't have had to assume this - The fact that you did the assumption, and replied without reading through my post, which would have confirmed the assumption, makes it so much harder to take anything you write seriously.

[QUOTE=hybridchic;2680740]The mental and behavioral development of almost all teenagers is vastly understuidied when you consider all the factors that go into shaping such

[Raiyne]

Since when did love give way to logic? Truth is, if it's not going to last, it's not worth your time. Of course, they thought it was going to last at the time, but it didn't. So is life.

Ah... I miss those younger hormone driven days...

The thing about that mindset is that most of the time in life... it isn't deterministic.

[hybridchic]

If you'd bother to read my entire reply before replying, you wouldn't have had to assume this - The fact that you did the assumption, and replied without reading through my post, which would have confirmed the assumption, makes it so much harder to take anything you write seriously.

I did read your entire post. I also don't know you. I assume you went to high school, and were a teenager because your posts suggests someone that is a tad bit temperamental, male, not hormonal, big on over simplifying things, has a sense of self worth, is most likely family oriented (or at the very least is not adverse tot he concept of 'settling down'), you're at least 21, and you aren't too bad at games like Crossword puzzles and jeopardy.
These

[Proxzor]

Booooooooooooooooooooobs

[hian]

I did read your entire post. I also don't know you. I assume you went to high school, and were a teenager because your posts suggests someone that is a tad bit temperamental, male, not hormonal, big on over simplifying things, has a sense of self worth, is most likely family oriented (or at the very least is not adverse tot he concept of 'settling down'), you're at least 21, and you aren't too bad at games like Crossword puzzles and jeopardy.
These are things I believe to be true about you because of what you post. Just because you said/hinted at having been through high school and been a teenager once doesn't make it so.

Rightly so, but the fact that I clearly stated in my post that I had attended high-school renders t

[Oisterman]

I'm gonna pop in here for a second and drop some anecdotal knowledge for yallz.

Of the high school relationships my friends have had (close friends), one has lasted. They seem relatively happy enough. I'm not sure it'll last forever, but whatever, its none of my business.

I know this kid whos in high school and has a new girlfriend every week. No shit. I'm not sure what the point of that is.

But the point is obviously learning how to be in relationships. Learning the ins and outs before you get serious.

[Shadow of The Lost Empire]

Damn, where do you people find the time to write such long *** posts?

[hian]

Damn, where do you people find the time to write such long *** posts?

At work, now don't tell anyone lololololol. Also, it doesn't take as long as you might think. 5+ years at the university, pluss a lot of paperwork will do that to you.

[olaph]

At work, now don't tell anyone lololololol. Also, it doesn't take as long as you might think. 5+ years at the university, pluss a lot of paperwork will do that to you.

What else are we supposed to do at work if we can't write giant walls of text

[hian]

What else are we supposed to do at work if we can't write giant walls of text

Exactly. Especially when you're in charge of a place that basically runs itself.
On the bright side, having the time to write walls of texts, means that I'm not spending time on dealing with douchebags, substance abusers, criminals, and messed up teenagers, and I'm not spending time on filing reports.

So consider that whenever I'm on onrpg writing massive walls of texts, that means that at least one part of the world is at peace. Should give you all a warm fuzzy feeling when reading my posts now shouldn't it?

[olaph]

Exactly. Especially when you're in charge of a place that basically runs itself.
On the bright side, having the time to write walls of texts, means that I'm not spending time on dealing with douchebags, substance abusers, criminals, and messed up teenagers, and I'm not spending time on filing reports.

So consider that whenever I'm on onrpg writing massive walls of texts, that means that at least one part of the world is at peace. Should give you all a warm fuzzy feeling when reading my posts now shouldn't it?

So it is basically the opposite of the chaotic mess people would perceive it to be?

[hian]

So it is basically the opposite of the chaotic mess people would perceive it to be?

Nah, I'm sure wherever the reader is at, things are horrible. Just saying, that if I'm writing this stuff, where I'm at is pretty peacefull.

[Akeras]

What else are we supposed to do at work if we can't write giant walls of text

Read Cracked

[olaph]

Read Cracked

I must admit, I am an avid reader of Cracked and The Onion. Hurray for having the most relaxed job in the world :P