So I started seeing this girl and it was going well for a while (3 months) then I found out on of her guy friends was actually her ex boyfriend. Needless to say I wasn't very happy she was still hanging with her ex and on top of that didn't tell me he was her ex. I didn't make a huge deal out of it I asked her to stop seeing her ex (hanging out though I am sure now after all of this it was more than that) when with me, needless to say she flips out and tells me I am a huge control freak. This was the first time I asked her to stop something..wasn't like I said stop hanging out with your friends I asked her to stop hanging out with the guy she was previously having sex with. Things start to sour (mostly from trust issues at this point) and said ex-boyfriend shows up at my place threatening me with physical harm if I don't leave her (it's only been 3 months mind you), so I bring this up with her. I tell her she obviously isn't ready to start a new relationship and needs to settle issues with her past and politely end the relationship. Now I am thinking good that bat shit crazy crap is done with and over time to go bar hopping with the buddies or something. While at the bars I run into her ex-boyfriend (I assume is back into boyfriend status) and he starts a fight with me (no, no Jackie Chan shit here folks) and I end up giving him a bloody nose and a hurt ego at best. So after this I am thinking great this ****ing bat shit crazy crap is gonna follow me for a while now..get a phone call from the ex and she starts screaming at me claiming I attacked him and she called the police. At this point I am beyond confused with this situation the cops arrive at my house and I explain what happened with several witnesses from the bar backing up my story, I decide not to press charges as he got the worst of it (I had a mild black eye that went away a few day later, as he punched me from the side as I was chatting with some friends).
A few months later I run into her and her now again ex-boyfriend had beaten her (the same reason she broke up with him in the first place). She apologizes for everything that went down and I told her I don't want any apologies I just want her to leave me alone. She starts to cry and leaves the store and I am now the new "asshole" around town even though everyone knows the entire story behind it all, and personally I could give less than two shits because she brought it on her self.
and all this started because I simply asked her to stop seeing her ex-boyfriend. So was that request out of line or something? To me it wasn't out of line but I guess if you ask people that your some sort of control freak, asshole, piece of shit.
This is mostly just a rant thread but feel free to throw your two cents in. As I am interested in peoples opinion of the situation.
Don't blame yourself for supposedly 'triggering' the series of events, obviously the issue runs deeper than that. It's not your fault. Obviously if you guys had been able to talk about it properly, things would have been different, but it seems that she's pretty mental.
EDIT: Personally I think it's ok for people to hang around with their ex-s. I mean, if everyone can be mature about it then I don't see why people have to stop being friends. It's all about trust.
No, you weren't. Honestly, I would have dropped her at the first lie (not telling you that her friend was really her ex).
The only thing you didn't do right was laugh at her face when she started crying.
I suggest you get some business cards printed out, that explain who you are and how much you DON'T GIVE A **** about what they think. So everytime some *** hole gives you a dirty look or thinks they should open their mouth to you, you can give them a real reason to think you're an *** hole, rather than some BS drama that they stick their nose in to because they have absolutely no purpose in life.
Of course, I'm a sour person and it's been a bad day...
Was I out of line?
Originally Posted by kuturu4FA
