Reasoning with an angry boyfriend...

[Oisterman]

I'm usually on the receiving end of the terrible cheating girlfriend equation, but this time I'm accidentally on the other side.

So, I'm gonna really really tl;dr this because its a mess and is far too much to type.

tl;dr - Didn't know girl A had a boyfriend. I had no interest in girl A. Shes pretty, but dumb as a rock and just completely not my type. Girl A is also known for being a bit...mmmm..."lax" in her morals. So as a man who can only take so much, some things happened. I'm now in a position where I'll probably never see girl A again unless I accidentally run into her at a grocery store. She was working nearby me but got a different job and is gone. Whatever, I figure I dodged that bullet anyway.

So, a week later I get a buttload of threatening emails from her stupid boyfriend. Fear is not the issue here, hes a tiny man and my safety is my last concern. I tried explaining to him rationally that it wasn't my fault. I had no idea she was in a relationship, and casually mentioned I wasn't the first, and probably wouldn't be the last. I left it at that, and have gotten a few more nasty messages.

All I can do is ignore it, right? I know the guy somewhat, and hes not the type to hunt me down. I think his pride is hurt and he just needed to make some empty threats. I'd like to calm him down, but I doubt there is anything I can say to him. If anyone here knows a good way to deal with this, I'd really appreciate some help.

[Elegance]

As good as your intentions are I would guess that you're the last, if not second to last person he would want to hear it from. I would just leave it be but maybe you can come up with some kind of sitcom type plan? With disguises and stuff? Then end with your catch-phrase?

Sorry, I really don't have any ideas.

[.c64]

Plough his mother

[ApocaRUFF]

If he's saying that he will physically harm you or someone else, I would report it to the police. If he's in so much denial about his girlfriend being a ****, he deserves to get a reality check from the law.

If, for some reason, that isn't an option, just ignore him. You may say he's not the type to do something, but you can never know with people. He might get drunk one day and do something stupid and either hurt/kill you or himself. You're not doing him any favors by putting up with him anymore than you already have. You're just encouraging his behavior, unfortunately.

[Xenonight2]

Don't contact him.

[Bad Hamster]

I've been through this more then I can count. The guy isn't planning anything at all, and even if he was, he would just be like "oh ****" and tell you it was a joke on their side. So basicly you should just ignore it, except when he suddenly comes walking up to you. Then just walk towards him. These kinds of guys back up right away.

[TreyTrey12]

Ive talked to a lot of girls who have had boyfriends but didn't tell me, (I posted a pic of a message I got from 1 a while ago on onrpg.) Usually they always resort to the whole "Im gone beat yo asz" thing. Just ignore it and don't talk to her anymore. not worth the drama.

[LeDave]

Just forget it, if he gives you crap then go to the cops. Nothing to stress about.

[olaph]

I'd ignore him, as eventually he will calm down and hopefully realize his pain was directed at the wrong person, I guess in a way it's a coping mechanism as the feeling of betrayal is incredibly overwhelming.

[NeoJaz]

easy thing to just tell the guy you didnt know she was hers and tell she be cheating on him best for you and him not to date her or talk to her let her be alone. she did that to her self. dont fight over a girl that be cheating. Girl like that love guys fight each other she think there more power that way for her

[Xenonight2]

easy thing to just tell the guy you didnt know she was hers and tell she be cheating on him best for you and him not to date her or talk to her let her be alone. she did that to her self. dont fight over a girl that be cheating. Girl like that love guys fight each other she think there more power that way for her

[Rebuzzal]

Never understood why they get mad at the person their SO cheated on and not the SO...

ignore it, threaten back at him, call the popo and turn in the email threats. Do whatever you desire to do. It's up to you.

[Xynh]

Roll it up and invite him to a session.

[Amidala]

Oh just ignore her boyfriend and as long as you didn't do anything.

[Wicked315]

To be honest bro, we never have really hung out, so I maybe wrong here, but you seem like a really harmless guy, as in you don't really mean to have any bad intentions, shit just went down. Your best bet is just let him cool off from a distance, let bygones be bygones, move on, get laid, chill with Cornwall, and probably smoke a few. Give it a month and shit will be chill.

[gratscorpio]

Sleep with her again, preferably somewhere that is special to him as a **** you. Not your fault his ***** ass can't please his woman and she looks for it else where.

On a less macho chest bump note: Just ignore him

scorpio

[The Great Beyond]

Yeah, ignoring him just works.

[Oisterman]

Heh, yeah, that seemed to work. For 3 days straight I got nothing but hate in my facebook inbox. I only replied once or twice letting him know it completely wasn't my fault. Seems like he has left me alone now. And my facebook is vague enough that he won't know where I live or anything. I've had my share of girly drama but this is the first of this type for me, I'm super against ruining relationships. I know how shit that feels.

Sad situation, but I've gotta wonder how many more times this is gonna happen to the poor dude before he figures out its her thats the problem. None of my business, I told him the truth and I guess thats all I can do.

[Chiyeon]

Heh, yeah, that seemed to work. For 3 days straight I got nothing but hate in my facebook inbox.

ohh..
I think I misunderstood the thread.

[duby]

Is there not a way to block some one from msg you on facebook sorry i not dont know much about it

[DizzyPW]

I'm usually on the receiving end of the terrible cheating girlfriend equation, but this time I'm accidentally on the other side.

As serious as this discussion is, tell me I'm not the only one who chuckled with the image that Oister cheated on his boyfriend after reading that line.

That said anyone who goes through Facebook to prove they're a tough guy probably was the catalyst to this girl looking elsewhere.

[Oisterman]

Hahaha it does kinda sound that way.

[Avarwen]

You did the right thing all you can do is talk to him if he's too stupid to see that his girlfriend is a tramp that's not your problem. It's funny how he gets mad at you and not the girl since she's the one who cheated it's amazing how dumb people can be at times.

[Xenonight2]

Yo dawgs, friendly reminder: I can and will ban you for being sexist, even if you are joking!

[kuturu4FA]

Yo dawgs, friendly reminder: I can and will ban you for being sexist, even if you are joking!