I'm a dad

[invadertim]

Well news broke and my gf is pregnant awesome, im currently jobless and a college drop out how awesome is that lol.

What do u guys think i should do? :0


EDIT: you guys are the first people i told this to trolololol



Its not like im going to leave her or anything and im looking for a full time job atm but i currently quit smoking that ganja and im not clean all the way. Not really looking to get criticized either i know i screwed up....big time

[marcipaans]

I would say, be a man, get a job, stick with it(unless you two have some serious issues). But then again I don't have a kid and I don't really know what it truly means to have a kid of your own.
Rational part of me also says that if you and your girlfriend are not ready for a kid, even more if you two are jobless with 0 income, try bringing up abortion. There is no point in ruining your whole life.

EDIT: and talk to goddamn people who can actually help you in the first place. Not really a place where you can draw your conclusions from.

[invadertim]

I would say, be a man, get a job, stick with it(unless you two have some serious issues). But then again I don't have a kid and I don't really know what it truly means to have a kid of your own.
Rational part of me also says that if you and your girlfriend are not ready for a kid, even more if you two are jobless with 0 income, try bringing up abortion. There is no point in ruining your whole life.

Ya i get whats your saying i didnt grow up with a dad so sense i screwed up im going to want to keep it and raise it, even tho im only almost 20 i think i could be a better dad then what my real one ever was or ill at least try but i wouldnt bail on the kid like he did

[NeoJaz]

best to look for a job and find place live with her. living into different place not good idea. does she have job at all?

[ApocaRUFF]

Look for a good job. Hopefully you have a family member that can get you one. Probably will have to settle for something like a chemical plant (don't go for a factory, though). Start looking for a job tomorrow, and not a shitty walmart job. Try to find someone that is smallish but still has room to grow/is growing. I'd also say start looking into online courses at your local community college or tech school or something. That or night schooling. Getting your own degree in something will go a long way in convincing your kid that he should get one, too. Otherwise they'll end up thinking, "My dad didn't get one and he's done fine, so why should I bother?" Whether or not you're actually doing fine.


Also, make sure you name him/her Onrpg for lulz.


P.S. Your life is basically over. His/her life comes first now. If you can't accept that you wont be a pleasant parent, as you'll be worrying about yourself and your own happiness to much, which ends up ruining the happiness of being a parent and ruining the happiness of your child. A dad who is to stressed, snaps at his kids, and is mean because his life isn't going how he planned it is just as bad (if not worse) than a dad who had nothing to do with their up-bringing.

P.S.S. I've never been a parent and don't have any kid raising experience. These are all just best guesses, so take that as you may.