I'm a dad

[invadertim]

Well news broke and my gf is pregnant awesome, im currently jobless and a college drop out how awesome is that lol.

What do u guys think i should do? :0


EDIT: you guys are the first people i told this to trolololol



Its not like im going to leave her or anything and im looking for a full time job atm but i currently quit smoking that ganja and im not clean all the way. Not really looking to get criticized either i know i screwed up....big time

[marcipaans]

I would say, be a man, get a job, stick with it(unless you two have some serious issues). But then again I don't have a kid and I don't really know what it truly means to have a kid of your own.
Rational part of me also says that if you and your girlfriend are not ready for a kid, even more if you two are jobless with 0 income, try bringing up abortion. There is no point in ruining your whole life.

EDIT: and talk to goddamn people who can actually help you in the first place. Not really a place where you can draw your conclusions from.

[invadertim]

I would say, be a man, get a job, stick with it(unless you two have some serious issues). But then again I don't have a kid and I don't really know what it truly means to have a kid of your own.
Rational part of me also says that if you and your girlfriend are not ready for a kid, even more if you two are jobless with 0 income, try bringing up abortion. There is no point in ruining your whole life.

Ya i get whats your saying i didnt grow up with a dad so sense i screwed up im going to want to keep it and raise it, even tho im only almost 20 i think i could be a better dad then what my real one ever was or ill at least try but i wouldnt bail on the kid like he did

[NeoJaz]

best to look for a job and find place live with her. living into different place not good idea. does she have job at all?

[ApocaRUFF]

Look for a good job. Hopefully you have a family member that can get you one. Probably will have to settle for something like a chemical plant (don't go for a factory, though). Start looking for a job tomorrow, and not a shitty walmart job. Try to find someone that is smallish but still has room to grow/is growing. I'd also say start looking into online courses at your local community college or tech school or something. That or night schooling. Getting your own degree in something will go a long way in convincing your kid that he should get one, too. Otherwise they'll end up thinking, "My dad didn't get one and he's done fine, so why should I bother?" Whether or not you're actually doing fine.


Also, make sure you name him/her Onrpg for lulz.


P.S. Your life is basically over. His/her life comes first now. If you can't accept that you wont be a pleasant parent, as you'll be worrying about yourself and your own happiness to much, which ends up ruining the happiness of being a parent and ruining the happiness of your child. A dad who is to stressed, snaps at his kids, and is mean because his life isn't going how he planned it is just as bad (if not worse) than a dad who had nothing to do with their up-bringing.

P.S.S. I've never been a parent and don't have any kid raising experience. These are all just best guesses, so take that as you may.

[kuturu4FA]

You're only 20? do you live with your parents still?

Not to be the asshole of the thread, but you need to think ahead, having a kid is not a good idea at your age, under your circumstances. I can't be the only one seeing this?

[invadertim]

Maybe after looking to further your studies and a job you should consider showering m8

Rofl clean as in theres THC still in my body and it shows up in tests limiting my ability to get any higher up jobs but im giving myself a couple more weeks and testing again, hopfully ill be clean

You're only 20? do you live with your parents still?

Not to be the asshole of the thread, but you need to think ahead, having a kid is not a good idea at your age, under your circumstances. I can't be the only one seeing this?

Ya i know that its not a good time to have a kid but it kinda just happend and theres nothing i can do about it, not like my gf will consider an abortion or giving the kid up for adoption. I wouldnt allow that anyways i made the mistake so im going to take responsibility and raise the kid

[TreyTrey12]

Best advice, you have 9 months to stack up as much cash as possible. Work work work. Hit up a temp agency, they usually are the easiest way to get into a job. Some even pay better than minimum wage. Stay away from the weed. I wouldn't be making 13.50/hr if I had chose to get high a few weeks ago.
Also, since your girlfriend is pregnant you could get public housing. It's usually expedited for women. The rent will only be 20 percent of your current income. You'll be surrounded by individuals of a "certain" mindset though. Might as well apply for WIC and Food stamps.

Good luck.

[Phenoca]

Wish I was an unemployed college dropout with a pregnant wife. Then again, I have lots of money.

[ApocaRUFF]

I have lots of money.

I could use some money ;D

[invadertim]

Rofl i dont i kinda wanna do something in life but i just have no motivation thats kinda just a defect i have tho


Going to start shaping up