When is the right time to say it..

[Dedinho]

"i love you"..
When, in your own oppinion, is the right time to say it to your girlfriend.
Now some of you may not even have a girlfriend but i still want your input..
I just had my birthday and my girlfriend came last night, and she gave me present's before she left, but she left before i even opened them so i couldn't really say much other then thank's and a kiss..

and when i wen't back into my room and opened it.. i got the best card ever..and other thing's, what i will keep to myself because it's from her to me.

anyway.. after i opened it all, and i read the card..i just wanted to go over to her, tell her that i love her and then it would of been the best birthday i have had..

While she was here i did want to say it..i am just to shy to say it but i am also scared.. i know inside that she love's me and she show's it in how she talk's to me and all that other stuff.. but i am just to scared to actually say it and hope that she say's it back to me.

We have been going out for a month now, i see her almost everyday..
and i know it's time to say it to her but i alway's keep thinking..is she ready to say it to.. but i know inside of me and herself she does..
ugh.. it's so annoying.

anyway.. when do you think someone should say it.
I would love all your input.
thank's.

[Negrac]

You should say it when your actualy in love, not as a result of you being boy friend/girlfriend, its stupid when people say they love them but really dont give a shit about them... Its pathetic actualy

[Dedinho]

You should say it when your actualy in love, not as a result of you being boy friend/girlfriend, its stupid when people say they love them but really dont give a shit about them... Its pathetic actualy

I guess you didn't even read it all.. or for that matter pay attention.
I am, i only said Girlfriend because all the other stuff she is to me like best friend etc is what i wanted to keep to myself.
And who the **** said i don't give a shit about her.. she is the world to me.
You are getting false fact's my friend.

[Fieren]

You should say it when your actualy in love, not as a result of you being boy friend/girlfriend, its stupid when people say they love them but really dont give a shit about them... Its pathetic actualy

Negrac. I ask you for the good of Dedinho, and everyone posting. Dont get into this topic. You too CarpetShark.

[kfckaykay]

You mean like.. infactual? or however you spell it, but yeah.. I wonder how old you are Dedinho, anyways.. Its best not to keep saying 'I love you' all the time unless its a family relationship, it gets boring after that.. I hope you know what I mean.

[FireStar]

This is from my personal experience.

I started saying i love you when my i know i actually did love the girl, it was about 3 weeks into the relationship, and guess what? she said i love you back. Now, when i talk to her on the phone everyday, and we expressed our feelings like every 5 minutes, and its the best thing ever because i know she actually meant it. Not just saying it just to make me happy but because thats what she felt.

So my advice is just go ahead, express your feelings to her, theres basically nothing to lose. If she doesn't respond to your liking, maybe you should re-evaluate your relationship or give it some more time. Oh and make sure you tell her what you love about her, girls love compliments.

It's never too soon to express your feelings but make sure you are absolutely sure about it. Once you let it slip, it'll be more easier each time.

Also, i did know a guy who said "i love you" to the girl that he was dating just for sex, and when she got too attached, he freaked out. People like him are bastards and i hope you are not one of them.

[Dedinho]

You mean like.. infactual? or however you spell it, but yeah.. I wonder how old you are Dedinho, anyways.. Its best not to keep saying 'I love you' all the time unless its a family relationship, it gets boring after that.. I hope you know what I mean.

Yeah dude.. i am 18 =]
And yeah i get what you mean, i just want her to know what i feel about her, aslong as i know she know's.. then there is no need to carry on repeating it

And firestar.. great advice man, thankyou.
I would never do that to my girlfriend, i haven't even had sex with her, and i don't want to until further on in the relationship.

[FireStar]

You should say it when your actualy in love, not as a result of you being boy friend/girlfriend, its stupid when people say they love them but really dont give a shit about them... Its pathetic actualy

Did you even fully comprehend what he said? If not, don't go making assumptions and stay out of it.

[Sandman53]

I think the actual meaning of "I love you" has been somewhat deluted. From my own experience it's not something you gain after 3 weeks. What most people feel is just an attraction towards one another... usually a crush, or some type of lust.

Love really can't be described. But it's one of those things where if you REALLY do love someone... you'll know it. I think it's one of those things you say to a girl you could see yourself staying together with for a long time. So highschool "love" is not usually actual love since very few people make it out of highschool together...

The best advice anyone can give you is to just follow your heart.

[kfckaykay]

Did you even fully comprehend what he said? If not, don't go making assumptions and stay out of it.

Oh please don't start a flame war for crying out loud..

@Dedinho -
Well yeah, when you say 'I love you' for the first time to her, it may feel abit.. curious to know what she would reply and stuff, anyways, good luck with it.. For the best time, I would say anytime.. the random'er it is, the better.. =] Just don't keep saying it because you want to make a impact whenever you say 'I love you', If she gets bored of it than there won't be any impact, than your I love you means nothing.. so just.. Yeah.. anyway, my whole point is.. my whole damn point is.. uhh, where was I? I guess I kinda lost my track.. Well anyways good luck.

@Sandman -
*hands up* I second that!! =P

[Dedinho]

I think the actual meaning of "I love you" has been somewhat deluted. From my own experience it's not something you gain after 3 weeks. What most people feel is just an attraction towards one another... usually a crush, or some type of lust.

Love really can't be described. But it's one of those things where if you REALLY do love someone... you'll know it. I think it's one of those things you say to a girl you could see yourself staying together with for a long time. So highschool "love" is not usually actual love since very few people make it out of highschool together...

The best advice anyone can give you is to just follow your heart.

Yeah, exactly Sandman..i mean i am not in highschool anymore.. but she is.. but my mum and dad have a 3 year gap in thee age and they have been married for 25 year's.
I do want to be with her forever, i am at that age were i can see myself with her for a long period of time and the only thing destroying it is something bad, i can see myself being with her til the end..
She is young..(not showing age) but you kind of get the idea from when i brought my mum and dad up as an example..
She is the type of person to stick to a relationship.. her only boyfriend cheated on her and it took her a REAL long time to get over it.. so she isn't one of those people who just play around and don't take it serious..

I don't kow really it's hard to explain, just looking into her eye's.. all the small thing's you know.. it's just..ugh.. i know i am ready.. i am just scared because i want her to be aswell.

[Negrac]

Wow, you suck.

I hope theres more people out there that appreciate the people that feed them, clothe them, and care about them.

Dude, I'm sorry but from this Im getting the idea you dont know jack shit about this.

Hey, what do i know, what do you know... whos been actualy "In love" as stated by my quote above? love is not fighting constantly, treats of devorce, treats of breaking up every friday, its not drama, its love... but what do i know? eh?

[Fieren]

Hey, what do i know, what do you know... whos been actualy "In love" as stated by my quote above? love is not fighting constantly, treats of devorce, treats of breaking up every friday, its not drama, its love... but what do i know? eh?

Yes, what do you know?

Me and my girlfriend go to the mall. Shop, watch a scary movie, get stuffed at a restaurant she picks out. So Dedinho, I wouldnt start anything cheesy or cliche. Just do something with her she really enjoys (excluding sex... well its your choice). I find that the best time.

Bus is coming, later.

[Dedinho]

lol i was saying in a genral statement... and Fieren dont tempt me :P, any ways, the phase means nothing... "i love you" Love is such a crude word, and most people incudeing you are not inlove... ok let me see if i still have it...*shuffles though papers and pulls out one titled "Love"*


sorry didnt do spell check on it then, wont do it now eather :P

for your anwcer, you should say it whenever fells apropriate... since every one else is misuseing it, do it right, take her out and tell her over the cold steam of the wine under the full moon... thats the perfect setting...


PS: sorry if my crude genaralizeation(omg i suck at spelling)offend you

Dude you have no idea what you are going on about.. all i asked in this thread was when would be the right time to say it because to be honest i am ready now, you don't even know the true meaning of what i feel for her and what i would do.
Anyway you have had your say, and Love is better than getting in a bed with some girl and having sex with her, i need to let her know how much i love her.
You can't say "including you" when you have no idea hpw we act when we are around eachother.. what we do together.. how we generally are around eachother.. it's just hard to explain but you can't say i'm not in love when you don't know anything about my relationship except for the birthday part what i posted on page one.

[Negrac]

Dude you have no idea what you are going on about.. all i asked in this thread was when would be the right time to say it because to be honest i am ready now, you don't even know the true meaning of what i feel for her and what i would do.
Anyway you have had your say, and Love is better than getting in a bed with some girl and having sex with her, i need to let her know how much i love her.
You can't say "including you" when you have no idea hpw we act when we are around eachother.. what we do together.. how we generally are around eachother.. it's just hard to explain but you can't say i'm not in love when you don't know anything about my relationship except for the birthday part what i posted on page one.

I have never crtisized you or her or your relasionship, what i was getting at is, that you tell some one you love them when your ready... thats what i said 3 times lol, if you say your ready, if you feel your ready, and know... then your ready bro , I got 3 words to say to you tho....

no fat chicks... thats what really counts(jokeing)

[Mystology]

Dont you love it when Raiyne breaks down Negracs posts?

Anyways, I told my GF I loved her over the phone... Ight lets see, how can I put it simply..

Umm, you get that warm feeling when you talk to her? Like you just wanna hug her and hold her for 5 minutes, you see that litle glint in her eye when she looks up at you and smiles? Thats when you tell her, just come right out and say it, there isnt a need for embarrasment shes your girl, its not like shes gonna say "Ew.." One things for sure, she'll 100% surely say it back, at least from what you wrote about your girl, she'll surely say it back. So go for it, believe it or not, after its over... Its nothing, at all, when I told her and she said it back, its been like 4 months now and we say it:

When we get on the phone, when I buy her anything, when we get off the phone, when I see her and feel like making her blush in front of her friends. It's a very simple ordeal "I love you" just never say it too too much cause you'll get the "You say it all the time, do you mean it?" Personally, I say it very nonchalantly, but with meaning, then when she looks sad I have to succumb to saying it soothingly, I guess girls like to feel that you really mean it.

Ight... Imma run to her house right now and tell her I love her.. I just realized how ****ing much I really did.

[RidleyLoki]

Well, besides everyone else's opinions, I've never really had a real relationship before. But if I did, I'd probally tell her I loved her once I knew she was the one for me. I heard it really takes some time to build into a good relationship. I think you should go out on a date and then really tell her that you love her, maby even present her with a ring or necklace and get engaged so you can make sure you keep your relationship stable. After that, you shouldn't rush into marriage, you ought to wait a few years, maby 2-5. But that's how I'm planning any relationship I would be out. You don't have to take my advice.

[Bomil]

Just tell her you love her if ur a man .....
Cmon dont be a pansyyy

[Jakuza]

"Love is a big word", something my girlfriend (girl as a friend) once told me. She told me she been through a past where she had no true love (relationship wise). We got closer and closer and I never felt this way for a chick, ever. Was she attractive beauty wise? Nope, I fell in love with her personality. One day I told her I truely 'loved' her. She responded to me by saying "Don't say you love me, unless you really mean it". Long story, short. Tommy, if you are really feeling this chick, then you do whats right, and say it. Cause if you don't really feel this 'love' you think about, don't speak. Sometimes the sentence "I love you" can hit somebody hard if you mean it or not.

[Attila]

I'll make this short and sweet... Do you know when in movies or a game, someone gives a character an item and says "You'll know when to use it when the time is right"....It's exactly the same thing with this.. It will come out of your mouth when the time is right and you won't even realise you said it.

[Fieren]

If you wanna be a smartass about this love is an illusion to define your existence as believing in god is denying that we're worthless *slaps* you're the one that doesn't know jack shit about this.

Okay..... Love is human nature, behavior if you will. Not an illusion. Not sure where you got that from. And I'm already a hypocrite, might as well hop on the smartass bandwagon too. It damn hell beats being a poetic dumbass.

I'll make this short and sweet... Do you know when in movies or a game, someone gives a character an item and says "You'll know when to use it when the time is right"....It's exactly the same thing with this.. It will come out of your mouth when the time is right and you won't even realise you said it.

Haha nice Attila. Almost makes me forget about the WoW comments. Almost.

[kfckaykay]

Maybe you can wait a little longer and have her come to you than you moving to her, but I doubt it'll work, anyways.. Whatever you do, whatever happes.. For the love of onRPG, don't.. and don't turn emo for crying out loud, if she doesn't feel the same way as you do, get over it.. be cool, be respected, Just like how I respect you now.. Don't let our respect go off because theres more things in life, just because you lose one thing in life doesn't mean you lose everything, even if you think emotionally and thinks shes everything to you, you know it on the other side that you have better stuff to do, just like

'I'd rather watch ice melt, metal rust, water evaporate.. than getting into a unreal relationship'

Think about it first, before you do anything.

Tell you what, I'm a little too young to be helping you with this, so disregard my comments, just follow yourself.

[MattAlchemy]

I should say it anytime, even the beginning because really, a "girlfriend"!

That means you love her so she knows that already.